hurtloam wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Sometimes it's like a self-fufilling prophecy where because you think something is going to go wrong you ultimately cause it to go wrong (unintentionally).
I think you really have to ask yourself what have you got to lose?
Instead of thinking ahead and stressing yourself just try to be more laid back maybe and if something happens it will, if it doesn't it doesn't. That way you aren't driving yourself crazy.
Yeah, not stressing and going with the floe is good advice.
However, my problem is that my natural default setting is to ignore people. When I like some I know that I have to bother talking to them which is OK if they are nice, but they never talk to me first. I ALWAYS have to make the first move. That makes me feel like I'm pushing myself on a guy who couldn't care less about me.
I can relate i'm like that with trying to make friends. This year I just bit the bullet and randomly started talking to people. Its weird because for the first time they actually invite me to stuff so I'm starting to wonder if my feeling that I was being annoying was just in my head.
Sometimes in a weird way you have to care less about other people because if you care too much about if you are bothering them you ultimately mess yourself up (If that makes any sense at all).
Also I know its easy to say and harder to put into practice