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23 Feb 2017, 7:52 pm

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It sounds like she is giving you step by step instructions. I would just come out and ask her one night - what shall we have for dinner? How about.....

Then whatever you two agree on, tell her you'll make it and it will be ready about.....

That way she shouldn't be telling you step by step instructions. THEN, on another night, say I'm feeling a bit tired. Can you make dinner tonight and I'll do it another night this week?

Kind of mix things up and make it known you will cook on your own something that you both have agreed upon. Maybe one night surprise her with a yummy recipe she has never had! :mrgreen:


The problem is , if I'm doing something ( posting here , watching TV etc ) , food doesn't even come into my concious , if she goes out I forget to eat ( or it's not a priority ). I am a bit crap in the kitchen and have to read the instructions on every packet before I can cook it ( now matter how many times I've done it ).


I wouldn't get down on yourself for that last part - that's just called "reading a recipe" and I have to follow recipes by the book. For the food not coming into your mind part - just set an alarm of some kind (like on your cell phone) to remind you. You can plan which recipe you want to do and have the ingredients a few days before. I tell you, if you come up with your own surprise meal, she will be totally turned on!


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23 Feb 2017, 8:17 pm

It could be a problem, but if you put things in perspective here...if this is the worst problem you have, then you guys are doing great. Or think of it this way, at least you have food and a girlfriend to complain about! You're lucky.



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24 Feb 2017, 2:30 am

SaveFerris wrote:
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tonight it was tagliatelle with a king-prawn, tomato and chiili sauce with rocket and Grana Padano

Alright Jamie Oliver , stop showing off :P

Oddly enough, it is a Jamie Oliver recipe :) It's a really simple recipe with very few ingredients (8) and takes the same time it takes to boil some water and cook the pasta. If anyone wants the recipe, I'll post it.


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24 Feb 2017, 6:38 am

burnt_orange wrote:
It could be a problem, but if you put things in perspective here...if this is the worst problem you have, then you guys are doing great.


If only that was our only problem , I could flood the boards with relationship problems I have.


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Or think of it this way, at least you have food and a girlfriend to complain about! You're lucky.


Yep , some people might see me as lucky as I have a girlfriend but everything comes at a price. There are definately positives with having a girlfriend but if you have anxiety , depression , ASD there are also negatives which wouldn't be a problem if I were a single.


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24 Feb 2017, 7:01 am

SaveFerris wrote:
I don't understand why it irks me so much so I will try and give you an example.

Me & my GF share cooking duties ( although she's a lot better at it and does it more than me )

My GF will turn the oven on then ask me if I will put the chips in , then a bit later ask me to put the fish in , then it's almost an unwritten rule that I will dish it up as well.

I feel like she is trying to trick me into making food without me realising.

I'd have no problem if she just asked at the beginning if I will make food. It's the way she goes about that angers me.

Does anyone see a problem here , am I just being an arse , or is something else going on?

Could any of this be related to AS for either of us? ( i.e. the way she asks or the way I react )
No that this has ever happened to me but I don't imagine it would bother me. I just realized I'm effectively a three year old. :?


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24 Feb 2017, 3:56 pm

Pieplup wrote:
I just realized I'm effectively a three year old. :?


Why do you think that?


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