Almost 29 and I am still the same as I was last year

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I don't really have any advice, just that I know what you're going through and how you feel.

It's even worse here in Australia.

It doesn't matter if you live in a small town or big city, a lot of young men here like hunting, fishing, fast cars/utes/big trucks, camping, etc.

I would never hunt an animal for no reason, I'd only kill an animal in self defense (but id try to escape first) or if I was going to eat it. Never tried fishing but I imagine it's boring. I like getting out to nature, mainly walking through forests and beaches, but swimming is too inactive, standing or sitting in the same spot for so long. For me, a car is just to get me somewhere. I can't drive yet anyway but I wouldn't need a car to be fast, just fast enough to get me around. And I don't need a car that can do off-road since I'd almost never go off-road. I dislike camping, very intolerable for me without the comforts of home. It's overrated. Clothes get ruined, all your stuff gets dirty, etc.

Doesn't help this is a very conservative city full of old people. There are more churches here than schools and there's about 20-30 schools. There's a church on every corner.

There's also a lot of nerdy and geeky people here in Australia who like anime, video games, superhero movies, sci-fi, etc.

There's a lot of bro/jock type males who like gym, surfing, football, music festivals, partying and have stylish haircuts like undercuts (google it) and wear tight V-neck t-shirts.

Unfortunately, I don't fall into any of the three types of people I just listed above.

I don't understand why I can't get along with or connect with other people my age either, because my interests really aren't strange and I don't see myself as a weirdo.

I have a very normal and ordinary personality, I don't feel like a weirdo but actually feel too NORMAL for my age, everyone else seems to be too extreme for me in one way or another (too nerdy, too much of a jock, too hippy, too bogan/Australian redneck, too religious, too much of a criminal, etc.)

I like to make electronic music (electronic is popular here, but not the kind that I make), sports and exercise (gym, running, cycling, watching football, hiking, etc.) read books like harry potter, the halo novels, assassins creed books, play adventure open world games like assassins creed, watch movies here and there and animated tv series (not anime, just regular American animation).

I want to get into growing my own organic fruits and vegetables.

I don't keep up with modern movies, tv shows, video games, etc. and actually dislike a lot of modern movies and games.

I do like popular series but I don't keep up with the newest stuff in the series.

I like to discover a new thing at my own pace when I choose to and not when it's brand new.

For example I love the Halo games, but I'm still playing halo 1 and 3 while most people have moved on and only play halo 4, 5 and soon 6.

Just like how I might like the old star wars movies but everyones seen the new one and wants to talk about that one (f*cking hate the new one)

I also don't play video games online. Ever. And it seems everyone else does.

People don't want to make the effort to come to your house anymore, so if you meet someone who plays the same video games as you, instead of asking if they can come over, they'll ask if you play online and ask for your PS4 or Xbox gamer ID but as soon as I tell them I don't play online that basically kills any opportunity of making a new friend with them.

Anyway, I can't meet people at all.

Aside from a bit of volunteering last year, I've done nothing since I graduated high school.

I'm too disabled to work and don't know what I want to study.

I'm too smart for my own good in this regard. A lot of people my age start studying which I think is very stupid for an 18 year old to just jump into university study straight away and so quickly.

Haven't tried any meetup groups yet but you've got to be 18 and I've only been 18 since late last year.

It doesn't help I have Agoraphobia.

I'm not an introvert or shy.

I have trouble connecting with others my age because we almost never share interests and the majority of conversations with them bore me to death, so this is why I don't talk much. I simply choose to be quiet if a conversation doesn't interest me, which is a lot of the time because it feels like everyone is so different to me, even when I still feel like this shouldn't be true because I'm a very normal person. Nothing to do with shyness.

And just because I have agoraphobia, a fear of leaving the house and going places, doesn't mean I don't enjoy going places.

I feel comfortable going out to do stuff with friends, too bad I don't have any real friends to go out and do stuff with.

I have been told Australia has their own equivalent of rednecks called bogans but I thought they wouldn't be as bad as the rednecks but what Outrider mentioned is just plain scary, especially how he says there are more churches than schools where he is from. It sounds like he lives in an area that is like the Bible Belt.

Some blue collar professions are better than degree-based jobs and they *never* get unemployed or without work; and can be on their own.

The demand on them never ends.

Rednecks think college is "fancy book learnin'" and that correlates with liberalism to them. The few that go are tired of being scorched by the sun and realize it's just boring as hell living in a small town or country town. Unfortunately, my father went back to his redneck roots but he was heading back that direction anyway.

I used to hope college would be where I would find my social niche and a girlfriend since so many told me that is where it would happen. It didn't happen at all.

I want this thread locked as well.