What to answer when asked this?

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27 Mar 2017, 11:45 am

If someone (not a romantic relationship) betrays your trust and hurts you deeply, making you lose something that was very important to you, through no wrong on your part, and then they say: "I really hope we can remain in friendly terms" (probably meaning "Please don't take revenge"), what do you answer?

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27 Mar 2017, 11:50 am

"I don't know if that's possible after what you've done."

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27 Mar 2017, 11:52 am

'It might be time for you and I to go our separate ways"

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27 Mar 2017, 11:54 am

Very good answers. And here I was thinking more like "You scum!"

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27 Mar 2017, 12:02 pm

Ask them if they've ever heard the proverb "Revenge is a dish best served cold." Then smile and walk away.

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27 Mar 2017, 12:04 pm

Benjamin, what does that mean? That they should watch their backs in the least expected moment?

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27 Mar 2017, 12:11 pm

"Is there a good reason that you do NOT owe me an apology?".

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27 Mar 2017, 1:01 pm

"I make no promises."

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27 Mar 2017, 6:24 pm

f**k You

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27 Mar 2017, 6:30 pm

"No."

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27 Mar 2017, 7:11 pm

Moondust wrote:

Benjamin, what does that mean? That they should watch their backs in the least expected moment?

Yes, just to scare them a bit... not that you have to actually carry out the revenge.

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27 Mar 2017, 7:17 pm

What did the guy take from you, anyway?

Did you co-sign on a loan with him? Did he skip with the money, leaving you to pay back the loan?

That happened to me once.

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27 Mar 2017, 7:26 pm

You could be "professional" while making it clear that it will be a while until they earn your trust back (if they can). It depends on what they did.

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27 Mar 2017, 8:54 pm

There's too many variables here. As in, it depends on what they actually did and in what context. It's good to set boundaries with people, but they need to be attenuated to the situation at hand.

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27 Mar 2017, 8:59 pm

well kind of hard to say without knowing a little more detail of what they did.

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28 Mar 2017, 2:03 am

Thank you all for the answers!! It's a very long story, basically landlord cheated me (I'm sueing).

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