what is "chemistry"?

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i hear people say things like "we just didn't have any chemistry" or "make sure there is chemistry".

what does this even mean? is this just another way of saying "attraction"? or does it mean something else?

It's an excuse you use when you don't find the other person attractive but don't want to tell them to spare their feelings.

When two people have "chemistry," it almost always means they have many things in common, and that they think of each other as being attractive people.

I'm not one to believe, entirely, literal "chemistry," brain chemistry, when it comes to relationships.

Though I believe certain things like endorphins can be activated when two people dig each other.

In my experience, it happens when you meet someone with whom you share some affinity. By affinity I mean that they are for some inexplicable reason easier to talk to than other people, they seem to "get" you in a way that others don't (and you feel like you "get" them, you can read them and the things they say and do make sense to you), you feel comfortable within yourself around them but also excited by their presence. You feel a strong desire to get to know all about them, to be around them a lot. When you touch, even if it's just holding hands, there is a feeling of electricity crackling between you. This is how it felt for me the few times I've met guys with whom I really clicked and got on well right off the bat. It's pretty rare in life (considering the total amount of people you will encounter in your life, only a small fraction of them will have this effect), but it does happen.

No chemistry:



Chemistry:

Lol men always thinking it has to be something sexual. It is to a certain extent, but not completely.

One can be sexually attracted to someone they have no chemistry with.

Weirdly I was just looking at a WhatsApp profile photo of someone I know. He's still attractive to me, but we had no chemistry.

we couldn't talk to each other. It was mostly uphill. We would just misunderstand each other so often. I didn't get his motivation and he didn't get mine.

It was two gears that don't go together.

No chemistry can also mean, "I found the conversation dull or too difficult. Not enjoyable"

I always thought chemistry meant that 2 people really like each either and have some similar interests and personality traits. And they just get along and have a great time together.

Chemistry is the instant connection you feel with another person.
It's when you "click" with someone and you're instantly "in tune" with each other.
Doesn't have to be with the opposite sex, or sexual in nature.

^ Yup, like that answer the best.... Sorry for the boys that assume it is sexual. I am male and have known a number of women through out my life and many that would be perceived as visually attractive but unless there is a ''chemistry'' ,a depth and a sincerity to them then i have no interest other than possible friendship. I am not sexually attracted to a woman solely on their looks. I have met good looking women with shallow hearts and to me they become ugly. Looks in time can fade but a big, sincere adventurous heart and good conversation/company/depth makes them beautiful in my eyes for a lifetime.