My 20's were wasted

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I also had more sex in my 30s, and much better sex to boot. I'd enjoy reading about OP having some success on that front. Sex is fun, healthy, and few people enjoy or benefit from wanting and not having it. On the one hand, there's a spiritual magical side to sex. On the other hand, people decide to engage in the activity for a variety of reasons. Someone has a taste for any body type, personality and life history combination, so own what you have and feel confident in yourself, and someone will want to get closer to that. Fact.

I will shut up when men will stop feeling sorry for themselves and start acting like a man

Well a few things about that.

1. I'm not attracted to men, so that's not my goal.
2. I'm asexual so i don't need sex. I get my powers from working and building projects.
3. I hate when guys stare at me in public, so hurtloam and slw can have all of the male attention they want, I hate it anyway.
4. You should be glad you aren't in a relationship, you only desire what you cannot have but once you're in one, you'll wish you weren't. You can never be happy in that sense.

The first obstacle of moving is to find work in the destination place; otherwise it would be hard to survive the new place.

And winning a job overseas (or in another city, state...etc) is very very difficult.

Don't you think the people who have been THROUGH their 30's are capable of giving advice based on experience?

JrJones lived through his 30's, and said the sex is better than when he was in his 20's. It might be that way for you, too.

I had it better in my 30's than I did in my 20's. Some people are just "late bloomers." Especially Aspie/Autistics.

I was "late" in most things----like talking, dressing myself, driving....etc.

I thought JrJones was a man, for some reason.

But still.....it does get better when you're in your 30's.

Look at Giant Hockey Fan. A virgin in his 20's, married in his 30's.

I thought JrJones was a man, for some reason.

But still.....it does get better when you're in your 30's.

Look at Giant Hockey Fan. A virgin in his 20's, married in his 30's.

The woman thing is some weird idea that results from me being a feminist. Some people don't believe that male feminists exist. Sly is just failing to check his sources again, and spreading more lies.

Don't you think the people who have been THROUGH their 30's are capable of giving advice based on experience?

JrJones lived through his 30's, and said the sex is better than when he was in his 20's. It might be that way for you, too.

I had it better in my 30's than I did in my 20's. Some people are just "late bloomers." Especially Aspie/Autistics.

I was "late" in most things----like talking, dressing myself, driving....etc.

Pretty sure it's was you who posted in the women's thread that your a girl who registered as male to hide being a girl. But I'll admit I could be mistake but pretty sure it was you. When I have more free time I'll try to dig through year of posts to find it . But there's some account that says male that is really a woman.

There was a person who was "originally" a man, then "became" a woman because he/she wanted to know the woman's viewpoint. The person remained a woman until he/she was banned. It wasn't JrJones who did this.

Until I see evidence to the contrary, I will assume JrJones is a man.

Please don't bring that in here, sly. I've seen Boo do that as well and it seems like it's something he just does for a laugh.

I can relate all too well. How much it sucked when all my loser cousins got married one by one while I, the responsible and caring one could not even get a hug from a woman in my 20s. Things obviously did work out but I made a huge mistake being so desperate that I grabbed the first person who showed any interest in me at 29. After I said "f*^$ relationships" at the age of 32 I met my wife a week later. I know it's hard now but in hindsight everything I did built up to that moment and I did NOT "waste" my 20s in any way. Hindsight is 20/20 but I made the best decisions I could have with the knowledge I had.

I wouldn't worry about your lack of experience. For the record my wife would have preferred my low "number" to be even lower than it is and was not turned off it. She WAS turned off by my bitter attitude thanks to crazy ex although luckily she is very understanding: one big positive for someone in their 30s is that there are no ex-spouses or children to worry about. If a woman rejects you for inexperience, thank her for not wasting your time and be glad you know she isn't the one. Besides, you don't even need to share it with anyone, just say you aren't comfortable talking about past relationships yet with someone new.

If it makes you feel any better most of the women who rejected me over the years are either still single or in miserable relationships meanwhile my wife gets upset sometimes because other women check me out regularly. I would have NEVER dreamed of that happening in my 20s! the trick is to have inner confidence that you are a valuable person, you don't care what other ignorant, judgmental people think of you and you deserve to be treated with respect, weird or not. Easier said than done but learn that and attracting a relationship becomes easier than you would have imagined.