Rejection

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No one "doesn't know how to respond".

This is a plain stupid excuse.

I wouldn't mind it if a woman kissed me spontaneously ❤️

She got upset when I mentioned to her that I was looking for a relationship a while after she told me she was wanting friendship. I had assumed that when she said friendship that she was rejecting me & only wanting me as a fried when instead she meant she wanted us to be friends 1st & leaving the possibility of a relationship open. She only said friendship thou so how was I supposed to know. This is a perfect example of the communication problems I've had with NT women & why I do better with Aspie women.

Some asinine reasons I've been rejected:

- looking younger than my actual age
- not having a beard / facial hair
- not being 6 foot tall, (apparently 5'9 > 5'10 was "too short")
- not having the right hairstyle
- liking Radiohead and old-fashioned prog-rock and not pop or club music like Ministry of Sound
- not having a car
- being too thin (134lbs age 21) by a woman that was all of 105lbs herself
- not having friends (apparently that made me either anti-social, closeted gay or a serial killer)
- not wanting to get involved in physical fights with other men
- not being a loud, extrovert, lager-drinking, club-going, Rugby-playing lads lad
- working a basic job in a supermarket and not white collar professional

and the most laughable *drum roll*....wearing a orange t-shirt onetime

Exactly. After getting tirades of abuse for not being interested, it’s easier to just ignore people. I’m still getting rape threats from someone I rejected 8 years ago. Though it’s difficult if you have to work with people who cross the line of what is appropriate in a workplace.

If a man is repeatedly ghosted it means he's ugly.

Ghosting means a female has shown zero enthusiasm to get to know you at all. All your other traits mean nothing, even if you know she's got shared interests. And for men that aren't too fat, too skinny, or not poor, it's hard to understand why women don't like your looks. If this repeatedly happens for years then I understand why some men become unstable. Look at the video I posted earlier and his reaction to ghosting:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iy5EJVAP6Cs

Me if ghosted? I just move on rather than result to tic-tack insults or tantrums. I don't focus on one woman or "oneitis" like I used to in my teens / early-mid 20's. Just remember that she sits on a toilet bowl like the rest of us, she's not special and plenty of other women are nicer and prettier. That's how I deal with it.

Rape threats? That's taking it too far.

Maybe he comes across as uninteresting. The world is not divided into ugly and non ugly looking people. Most of the time he’s probably average looking and seems boring so she pushes next.

Like I said, a faceless aspie man who I have a love/hate friendship with can make people obsessed with him without having a photo up.

Dating sites as a woman are usually just pushing next next next until someone stands out. We get so many messages that getting to know each person would take all day. I once swiped through 200 guys on tinder before swiping right. They weren’t “ugly”, they just seemed boring to me. I’m not interested in sports, holding up fish, drinking beer, rap music, taking photos giving the middle finger and surfing.

Online dating is skewed. Women receive 100 times the interest as they do in real life. It’s like flicking through a novel you’re told you have 60 seconds to read. I seriously would NOT recommend it for any average guy.