a crush is an attraction you know isn’t meant to be.
infatuation is a chemical connection. the person is perfect, because chemicals in the brain insist so... for approximately the first three years, and then all the upsetting things they’ve always done, stop being perfect, and are revealed as troublesome. it takes knowing the self quite well to know what’s going to be problematic in the future of a long term relationship, and if it can be committed to. people not knowing themselves is why courting for marriage in american culture is usually done in the first couple years, and divorces often come shortly after.
conditional love is the most that the majority can be bothered to remain single for. it’s romantic love, it’s just on the condition that the cost benefit analysis of a partner’s positive qualities outweigh their negative, only so long as their actions don’t become unforgivable.
unconditional love, in a romantic sense, is true love. it’s a bond as if spiritual twins. nothing they could do, nor anything could happen to jeopardize that affinity... even the most difficult times become hardships to work through as alternative forms for strengthening the bond. this isn’t a trivial form of love as if loving someone for the sake of it... it’s loving them as if a childhood best friend that you’ve been inseparable with since both of your mothers were pregnant, and spending time with each other, while the two of you were developing in nearby wombs. even at the worst of times, you know you’ll never find another in this short life that you’re so in tune with.
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