What is comfort?
You know the concept of feeling down and then someone comforts you? Does that really happen to anyone in real life? Nothing ever makes me feel better.
Well not nothing. I was telling someone about being bullied as a child and they said, "I'm sorry to hear that happened to you." And I thought, wow, that's not something I hear very often. It was nice to have a feeling validated.
Ordinarily if I open up about how I'm feeling I get told platitudes that mean nothing and are no real assurance, or I get a lecture about how I'm not trying hard enough and I shouldn't still feel pain about a thing that happened to me only a year and a half ago or whenever. Or I'm not trying hard enough to better my situation.
What if anything comforts you?
Well not nothing. I was telling someone about being bullied as a child and they said, "I'm sorry to hear that happened to you." And I thought, wow, that's not something I hear very often. It was nice to have a feeling validated.
When I'm upset people often say 'it doesn't matter' I get that they are trying to make me feel better, but it makes me feel worse. I always want to scream 'IT MATTERS TO ME' at them, but I can't, because it's usually my Mum.
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