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IsabellaLinton
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17 Sep 2023, 12:55 pm

I'll never understand people who want to meet partners, and then they meet someone who could have potential but they decide they don't want a partner after all or that they can't take the next steps, so they go back into their spiral of looking for someone else.

In your case Jamesy, why have you been asking for advice on how to meet someone if you aren't ready?


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17 Sep 2023, 12:59 pm

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I'll never understand people who want to meet partners, and then they meet someone who could have potential but they decide they don't want a partner after all or that they can't take the next steps, so they go back into their spiral of looking for someone else.

In your case Jamesy, why have you been asking for advice on how to meet someone if you aren't ready?



Well maybe part of me would like to think perhaps she was not really interested so I did not miss out on much. She would soon find out I have autism but I am not sure if it would put her off? Me being unemployed obviously would be a double whammy.


If I had a relationship the woman would probably have put in most of the effort and initiate things.



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17 Sep 2023, 1:06 pm

By the time I am ‘ready’ to get partner it might be to late if you know what I mean.



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17 Sep 2023, 1:12 pm

Jamesy wrote:
She would soon find out I have autism but I am not sure if it would put her off? Me being unemployed obviously would be a double whammy.



You won't know unless you ask her.
Autistic women deal with the same insecurities, so I know what you mean.

Why are you unemployed? I mean, is it by choice because of mental health?


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If I had a relationship the woman would probably have put in most of the effort and initiate things.


Why?

You don't have the wherewithal to be kind to people or express interest in them?

Relationships should always be balanced with both people putting in the "effort" or initiating.


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17 Sep 2023, 1:13 pm

Perhaps you should try to find a job to increase your dating prospects? Unless you on disability benefits, in which case you'll still have an income and could explain that to a date?



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17 Sep 2023, 1:13 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
She would soon find out I have autism but I am not sure if it would put her off? Me being unemployed obviously would be a double whammy.



You won't know unless you ask her.
Autistic women deal with the same insecurities, so I know what you mean.

Why are you unemployed? I mean, is it by choice because of mental health?


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If I had a relationship the woman would probably have put in most of the effort and initiate things.


Why?

You don't have the wherewithal to be kind to people or express interest in them?

Relationships should always be balanced with both people putting in the "effort" or initiating.



Unemployed for mental health reasons



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17 Sep 2023, 1:15 pm

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Perhaps you should try to find a job to increase your dating prospects? Unless you on disability benefits, in which case you'll still have an income and could explain that to a date?



Yes i am on disability benefits.

And seriously do you think any sane woman would not be put of by me being on disabled benefits.



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17 Sep 2023, 1:16 pm

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Perhaps you should try to find a job to increase your dating prospects? Unless you on disability benefits, in which case you'll still have an income and could explain that to a date?



Yes i am on disability benefits.

And seriously do you think any sane woman would not be put of by me being on disabled benefits.


In most cases, you are correct, a woman is likely to reject you if you are disabled and on disability benefits, such is societal discrimination.

The solution? Date disabled women! :)



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17 Sep 2023, 1:16 pm

Lots of people on disability find partners.


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17 Sep 2023, 1:19 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Perhaps you should try to find a job to increase your dating prospects? Unless you on disability benefits, in which case you'll still have an income and could explain that to a date?



Yes i am on disability benefits.

And seriously do you think any sane woman would not be put of by me being on disabled benefits.


In most cases, you are correct, a woman is likely to reject you if you are disabled and on disability benefits, such is societal discrimination.

The solution? Date disabled women! :)



I had a fling/pub relationship with a 68 year old woman from 2021-2022. I felt at ease around her because she was a lot older than me.



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17 Sep 2023, 1:27 pm

68!

That seems a bit old for you, Jamesy. :o



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19 Sep 2023, 10:24 am

The next time you see her, you should chat her up.


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19 Sep 2023, 10:32 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
The next time you see her, you should chat her up.



To shy and socially awkward to do thaf



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19 Sep 2023, 11:29 am

If you are unable to act on these opportunities, instead of regretting the fact that you couldn't act, instead, appreciate that somebody found you interesting and/or attractive enough to chat you up. Try to think positively.



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19 Sep 2023, 11:41 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
If you are unable to act on these opportunities, instead of regretting the fact that you couldn't act, instead, appreciate that somebody found you interesting and/or attractive enough to chat you up. Try to think positively.



True but nobody will be chatting me up on nights out when I am 40 though.



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19 Sep 2023, 3:16 pm

Always a chance she may have had her “beer goggles” on.