Should people only date people in their age groups ?

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I was thinking that too.

I spent much of my career thinking I was too young to be considered mature for the things I wanted to be considered mature for, and too mature to be considered young for the things I wanted to be considered young for.

No.

I'm with an older woman and I have no problem with that. I was born in October 1987 and she was born in September 1987. She's 35 days older than me.

I've been there and I'm grateful that both parties were always acting in good faith with each other.

I've matured enough to realize that there's no guarantee of that being the case.

The only age-related imperative for dating involves prosecution of any legal adult who dates a person under the Age of Consent (e.g., a "child").

I find it strange having autistic people criticize others for being judgmental. What difference is "I can't stand 40 year olds who date 20 year olds" from not being able to stand smells, tastes, noises, asymmetry, etc?



Are you attracted to 20-somethings because of their age or coincidentally?

I'm not attracted to vegetarians, but it's hard to tell that from my dating and attempted dating history. I have trouble telling a 20 year old from a 30 year old. For that matter I find that 40 year old women either look 30 or 50.

I am kind of attracted to women in their early 20s even though I'm in my early 40s. And you're right, there is something wrong with me: I have autism. Because of my autism I've had very few relationships, and as a result I've lived alone most of my adult life. A single woman my age is probably divorced, often has kids, and usually has a lot more relationship expectations from experience that I can't meet.

I'm biologically in my early 40s, but due to going back to college where I'm at in my life is closer to typical early 30s, and my relationship experience is more like early 20s.

Not that it really matters. 20-somethings didn't want to date me when I was their age, much less now.

That said, it would awkward to start dating someone and find out their parents are the same age as me.

Do you seriously mean that you see no difference between disliking a particular food or sound, and passing judgement on who another person loves?

If it bothers me, it bothers me, regardless of what "it" is.

When the "it" is people, that's the basis for every form of bigotry and prejudice. It's not something to be proud of.

Age of consent in Texas is 17 so I think its fine as long as both parties are legal.

There's a history in our society of older men who are rich and powerful having relationships with much younger and very attractive women. It's considered by some to be a sign of status for an older man to have a pretty, young girlfriend or wife. And while that can be fine and the relationship can be a genuine partnership of two equals who love each other, it can also be a "trophy wife" that is meant as sign of status, which is disrespectful to women in general, not just to the woman in question, because it implies that women are objects to be conquered like a prize. I think that's why age-unequal relationships that follow that pattern make people uncomfortable.

I'm going to call you out every time you post this because it's f*****g weird and you don't need to be with a 17 year old at 33 years old.

Why do you want to be with a HIGH SCHOOLER??

Sensory issues are not at all the same thing as disapproval on (what one believes to be) moral or ethical grounds.

I can't stand to drink soda because I can't stand the feel of fizz in my throat. But I don't morally disapprove of other people drinking soda.

Did Texasmoneyman300 ever say that he, personally, specifically wants to be with a 17-year-old? Or was he just saying he wouldn't pass judgment on such couples?

I don’t think that a relationship between people who are 17 and 33 should be legal, and it’s not in a lot of places. There’s a world of difference there. Just because something is legal doesn’t make it right.

Last edited by TwilightPrincess on 23 Sep 2023, 9:36 am, edited 2 times in total.

Hi to all as long as its legal and were both adults and everything and she has reached the age of consent I would be open to dating a 17 year old but I would be sure to have a look at her ID.Howwever in Texas the min marriage age is 18 so ideally I would want to marry a woman between 18 to 21.I know yall dont approve of that but I was asked and this is a public forum.As long as I am following the letter of the law I will continue to be open to dating 17 to 21 year olds.I just think I should be able to date and marry who I want.But to get back to question I want to marry a 18 to 21 year so I can have a quiverfull of children.I know its taboo but as long as its legal I am not worried.