Do all men ''have'' to be and look muscular ?

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There are a lot of Youtube icons that go to the gym and I don't think many, if any of them are gay.

When I visited the gym a couple of decades ago, there were a lot of seemingly heterosexual men & women there.

A lot of 'alpha' type dudes overcompensate with physical strength and muscles to try to make themselves extraordinary as opposed to just.. regular human beings.

I'm sure there are straight guys. I don't go to the gyms to check, so I was just giving an observation. I've known at least five gay men who went regularly because they could meet other men there, and they also wanted to look buff.

There's been lots of TV shows with an overweight husband who's wife is a normal weight.

I just had a thought that some fit guys might be considered attractive due to their presumed personality traits instead of being solely based on their physical appearance. Physical appearance & personality traits can sometimes get connected to each other like wearing thick coke-bottle glasses is associated with being a nerd/geek & being very muscular is associated with being mocho. Just because those things are associated does not mean it's true but people still may have those assumptions.

I don't think so, Men should choose whatever body sizes they want. as long as they are healthy and love their self. Being less muscular won't make you less as a person.

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Men don't have to be muscular, thin, fat or have any other body shape unless they want to. To be "attractive" I think the most important thing is to be yourself without making any apologies.

I started going to the gym for physiotherapy. I absolutely hate being there, (people, noise, bright lights...), but I learned that it was the quickest, most efficient way for me to stay fit.

I can't think of any social benefits to size or muscles other than it makes bullies and crooks think twice about messing with you. If you're an autistic loner and don't like confrontation, that can help.

Not at all! I'm not muscular (I'm over 300 lbs.) and I'm 100% male. Muscles aren't everything. There's nothing wrong with a guy being skinny or fat instead of muscular. I don't care much for muscles for the most part, but I feel like lean muscles (like those that runners and swimmers have) tend to be a lot more attractive than big, bulging muscles.

Men (and women) come in all shapes and sizes.

That's like asking if all women "have" to look no older than 21 and have perfect hourglass figures. The answer to both is no, but human society refuses to accept that and wants us all to look completely perfect and the same like robots or clones of each other.

Intense exercise and a healthy diet have been 2 of my special interests for over 40 years. I alternate between more endurance exercises and bodybuilding. I feel like they calm me down better than anything else. The original motivation for these activities was to either get away from or defend against my persistent bullies. It worked and I never stopped.
As an adult my weird still shows but being over 6' 2" and a lean 225lbs people continue to treat me different. I don't think anybody needs to be like this to be manly as outside of the gym almost nobody is. On the negative side I lean to the demisexual side of things and being very fit looking got me some female propositions that were highly inappropriate and made me super uncomfortable.