Social cues that someone may be into you
I can't tell if anyone has any interest in me unless they tell me up front that they like me more than a friend or compliment my appearance/personality and ask me out on a date. But I've heard there are some obvious social cues people exhibit when they're interested in someone.
Some signs that might indicate a person has romantic interest in you:
- They make an effort to spend time with you and prioritize your company.
- They remember and bring up details about your life, interests, and preferences.
- They initiate and maintain meaningful conversations with you.
- They show genuine concern for your well-being and happiness.
- They engage in acts of thoughtfulness, such as giving you thoughtful gifts or surprises.
- They introduce you to their friends and family or express a desire to meet yours.
- They use affectionate gestures like holding hands, hugging, or cuddling.
- They express their feelings or attraction through verbal or written communication.
Some signs that might indicate a person has sexual interest in you:
- Frequent and intense physical flirting, like touching your arm or shoulder often.
- Making explicit or suggestive comments, jokes, or innuendos.
- Engaging in conversations with a heavy sexual undertone.
- Excessive compliments about your physical appearance or attractiveness.
- Inviting you to more intimate or private settings, like their home.
- Sending explicit or provocative messages or photos.
Can you think of any others or disagree with any of these?
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If any of those are initiated by a man toward woman, it is very likely he will be perceived as a harasser or creep.
Gender dynamics dictates you how to court.
I agree. Men are easily labelled creeps, particularly by women. It's almost like a throwaway insult, but it can have devastating consequences for a man and his self esteem.
Being pursued by someone who is behaving like a creep or who IS a creep can have a very harmful impact on a woman, especially if she has preexisting trauma.
If people want to avoid making others feel uncomfortable or worse, they should avoid exhibiting certain behavior unless they know the woman well enough to know she’s comfortable with it, especially:
- touching (back the f**k off )
- staring
- anything stalkerish
- explicit messages
- dick pics
- comments or compliments about her body
Some of this behavior would make me have a conversation with law enforcement. If people don’t want to be labeled as creeps, they shouldn’t act like one.
With all that being said, I wouldn’t engage in any of those behaviors, either. When I’m interested in someone in-person, I tend to…talk to them and am willing to go out of my way to do so. I also smile and joke around much more. Well, I always joke around, but I’m much shyer offline. I don’t intentionally act interested or try to flirt. It’s more of an organic thing. It’s how I acted years ago, not how I am now, though.
Due to my extreme shyness, I’ve usually been pursued, so my behavior demonstrated that the interest was mutual.
There are cultural differences in how people demonstrate interest, too.
I don't tolerate people unjustly being labeled as creeps. When there was a rumor going around that someone was sending a dick pic who wasn't, I was intent on getting that sorted. The offensive person is no longer here.
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Some signs that might indicate a person has romantic interest in you:
- They make an effort to spend time with you and prioritize your company.
- They remember and bring up details about your life, interests, and preferences.
- They initiate and maintain meaningful conversations with you.
- They show genuine concern for your well-being and happiness.
- They engage in acts of thoughtfulness, such as giving you thoughtful gifts or surprises.
- They introduce you to their friends and family or express a desire to meet yours.
- They use affectionate gestures like holding hands, hugging, or cuddling.
- They express their feelings or attraction through verbal or written communication.
Some signs that might indicate a person has sexual interest in you:
- Frequent and intense physical flirting, like touching your arm or shoulder often.
- Making explicit or suggestive comments, jokes, or innuendos.
- Engaging in conversations with a heavy sexual undertone.
- Excessive compliments about your physical appearance or attractiveness.
- Inviting you to more intimate or private settings, like their home.
- Sending explicit or provocative messages or photos.
Can you think of any others or disagree with any of these?
Your second set of bullet points are actions which leave no doubt as to intent. There are a number of other things that a person can do to signal sexual interest that are more subtle. And more effective. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, to use a bad analogy. I agree with the prior poster. It is organic.
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- They make an effort to spend time with you and prioritize your company.
- They remember and bring up details about your life, interests, and preferences.
- They initiate and maintain meaningful conversations with you.
- They show genuine concern for your well-being and happiness.
- They engage in acts of thoughtfulness, such as giving you thoughtful gifts or surprises.
- They introduce you to their friends and family or express a desire to meet yours.
- They use affectionate gestures like holding hands, hugging, or cuddling.
- They express their feelings or attraction through verbal or written communication.
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