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19 Nov 2023, 1:51 am

Hi! I'm new. I am posting this here because this is the place to say "Hi! I'm new" allegedly.

Mine is perhaps a common story. I'm in my early 50's now. I was 'defined' as an Aspie just over ten years ago after recognising similar patterns of behaviour in my children and their difficulties 'fitting in'. I self diagnosed initially and then went to a psychologist to make it 'official'.

I have read many other similar stories about how everything fell into place once there was an answer - and the same happened with me to some extent. I had an answer as to why I had a great amount of difficulty up until that point.

I use the word 'defined' and not 'diagnosed' because I am definitely not 'wrong', 'diseased', or 'broken'. I am merely different. I am fine just the way I am.

I have struggled off and on with depression, PTSD and CPTSD and went though a pretty deep existential crisis perhaps two years ago (only a small amount of it was caused by the pandemic - mostly caused by some pretty crappy actions by narcissistic Autism-denying family members) but I have left a lot of it behind. I am doing great now, mostly as a result of a real deep dive into my personal Abyss, which created my current strategy of self-care, self-reflection, and self acceptance.

Hopefully you will enjoy my presence as much as I do :D



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19 Nov 2023, 5:21 am

G'day CP, Welcome from sunny Qld 8)


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19 Nov 2023, 3:25 pm

Welcome to WP! I hope you like it here.

I agree about just being different. Autism is a Spectrum Disorder and I was also fortunate enough to land at a good spot on it. You might hear other opinions here, though, because some folk here are disabled by Autism. But, we all get together fine here on WP!


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19 Nov 2023, 4:34 pm

Hi welcome.

You know, in a forum several years ago there were only 3 of us who were autistic.

Out of approximately 30,000 non-Autistic people.

I didn't know or understand anything about what I had: I received enormous interest, now that forum has changed ownership and I haven't written posts since 2019, but my posts can help those who are autistic like us, and others too because they cover very different topics .

You will notice a post that is less understandable than the others, I generally understand you by reading your posts.

But I don't get to interact with most of the WP members that much.

I believe it is due to my inadequacy due to my limited knowledge of written English.

And then the long posts: which many write, I also noticed yesterday.

Here I express myself as a Neanderthal man would, I'm afraid!

Oh well: I've come to terms with it, and I'm limiting the places to post.

Maybe it's better this way.

<>
So in the 30,000 forum I thought that the two of them were the emblem of autism, and were in more difficulty than me.

One is brilliant.
The other has two levels, the simple one and the hyper complex one.

Paradoxically, our lives have evolved with difficulties and the reaction to them.


The year 2012 was a fundamental beginning.

My diagnosis is from 2019.

I thought I had achieved some goals.
Instead I realize that there are only so many starting lines, and there are definitely too many.

You know what's disarming?

Not knowing how to answer your father when he asks you what limits you socially.

Overall the diagnosis has opened a lot of doors and I have a sort of frozen house in which I have to survive.

Communication: here I realize it's my problem.

I have no feedback, and where I don't have it I understand nothing about myself.

I have some friends here, special people for me.

The rest is not there in my case.

<>

I return to the forum: it is well structured, well directed in my opinion.

I believe that a user who knows how to write in English can only feel comfortable here.

Then misunderstandings can arise and even dissolve like snow in the sun.

Huck Finn


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20 Nov 2023, 6:48 pm

welcome to Wrong Planet...hope you like it here!


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21 Nov 2023, 7:15 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet! :)


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23 Nov 2023, 6:44 am

Welcome!


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27 Nov 2023, 5:48 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet.


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02 Dec 2023, 12:48 am

Comet Zed wrote:
G'day CP, Welcome from sunny Qld 8)


Thankyou! Great to see I'm not the only Aussie here.

I love Australia. There is still space to be left alone.



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02 Dec 2023, 12:54 am

Huckleberry Finn wrote:
Hi welcome.

You know, in a forum several years ago there were only 3 of us who were autistic.

Out of approximately 30,000 non-Autistic people.

I didn't know or understand anything about what I had: I received enormous interest, now that forum has changed ownership and I haven't written posts since 2019, but my posts can help those who are autistic like us, and others too because they cover very different topics .

You will notice a post that is less understandable than the others, I generally understand you by reading your posts.

But I don't get to interact with most of the WP members that much.

I believe it is due to my inadequacy due to my limited knowledge of written English.

And then the long posts: which many write, I also noticed yesterday.

Here I express myself as a Neanderthal man would, I'm afraid!

Oh well: I've come to terms with it, and I'm limiting the places to post.

Maybe it's better this way.

<>
So in the 30,000 forum I thought that the two of them were the emblem of autism, and were in more difficulty than me.

One is brilliant.
The other has two levels, the simple one and the hyper complex one.

Paradoxically, our lives have evolved with difficulties and the reaction to them.


The year 2012 was a fundamental beginning.

My diagnosis is from 2019.

I thought I had achieved some goals.
Instead I realize that there are only so many starting lines, and there are definitely too many.

You know what's disarming?

Not knowing how to answer your father when he asks you what limits you socially.

Overall the diagnosis has opened a lot of doors and I have a sort of frozen house in which I have to survive.

Communication: here I realize it's my problem.

I have no feedback, and where I don't have it I understand nothing about myself.

I have some friends here, special people for me.

The rest is not there in my case.

<>

I return to the forum: it is well structured, well directed in my opinion.

I believe that a user who knows how to write in English can only feel comfortable here.

Then misunderstandings can arise and even dissolve like snow in the sun.

Huck Finn


Hi Huck

You seem to be doing okay with English as far as I can see :wink:

Thankyou for your welcoming words, it is obvious they come from a good place.

I too have a grasp on who I am and will try to help those who at a different place in the struggle.



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02 Dec 2023, 12:56 am

Thankyou to everyone who viewed one of my first posts and also to those who offered messages of welcome. :)



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06 Dec 2023, 10:27 am

Welcome to WP :mrgreen:


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