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I heard about this site from my dad. He was diagnosed when I was diagnosed. I was 11. He was 46. Two cousins of mine, the sons of two of his brothers, were diagnosed after me. (Call me a trailblazer or whatever)

I have family like me. But even we are still so different from each other. My dad and I relate the most but we have different interests now. He advocates for me the most. He understands me the most.

I am graduating hopefully this Fall 2024. I got married Spring 2023 to my partner that I had been dating for like 10 years. Basically since we were kids. He is barely passing NT. He had to be tested twice because the teachers were sure he had autism, lol. But he is barely subclinical. Has repetitive behaviors and is introvert but not affecting him negatively and he gets no meltdowns. He still understands me a lot so we work with each other on things.

University and social life and family life and everything is very stressful. Everyone and everything makes me feel like an alien. Like I need a manual for everything. I want to be in a space where I am less alien.

So I remembered seeing Wrong Planet on my dad's old CRT computer monitor.

welcome!

Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Welcome to Wrong Planet. Although you and your husband are different, you both may have Aspie traits. It affects males and females differently. If you work together well as a team, that is a good thing. It is a little bit like a coin. There are two sides to a coin. Each side is different but together they are paired as one.

wellcome

You mention he gets no meltdowns. What about shutdowns? (They come in various forms from just mental to physical though if physical there is a mental aspect to it as it is the mind shutting down its systems when it senses an overload where it can't cope).

I only mention this because 60% of those on the spectrum experience meltdowns and 60% experience shutdowns (Just as common as meltdowns) and obviously the two overlap and some lucky individuals get none of the above! (Rare but someone I know on this site gets neither shutdowns or meltdowns, and rare because being on the spectrum can usually put more mental stress on the mind than most allistic people can get (Though allistic people can logically get meltdowns or even shutdowns if pushed too far, though for them it is so rare that if it is a shutdown, they may think it is a major thing and take a long break from work to de-stress (The best thing to do if one has either shutdowns! Looking back my first boss had what he called a "Funny turn" due to stress and he took his health seriously as they assumed it was his heart (He was retirement age), but looking back of his situation at the time and the stress he put himself under (Self done as he was a real go-getter but would not listen to our advice so ended up going through stressful situations he could have avoided), I am sure it was his mind shutting down? It mighthave been his heart, but he didn't get the palpetations one would have thought one would get... So am sondering if it was a shutdown due to major stress as we could all see him getting really worked up. May have been both?)

Welcome toe WP! I hope you like it here.

Is odd. I am male and due to masking I went through life not knowing I was on the spectrum though I disn't realize what autism was. But what I am saying is that it was said that women on the spectrum mask which is odd because I am a man.

welcome, glad you found us! <3

Welcome to WP

Welcome to WP!