Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual?

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I wanted to ask, is it not unusual or not unheard of for a portion of people on the autism spectrum to be asexual?

Because I got out of a failed relationship a few months ago, the relationship was not entirely negative, here were the pros and cons of the relationship.

Positive part: when it came to the companionship and the mental and emotional support part or just being there for each other, hanging out and doing activities together, that was the good part of the relationship.

Negative part: my ex-girlfriend, she was not really comfortable with sex, or just doing anything further beyond kissing and making out.

Because of that, I feel that it wasn't a true relationship.

I also feel like I stayed with her longer than I should have but I was reluctant to break up with her for a while because I didn't want to become alone and Single Again, bigger reason and that is I didn't want or don't want to have to go through the drama or burden of having to put myself out there all over again.

Specifically, not wanting to go through the drama and hassle, burden, of having to do the pursuing and deal with courtship all over again, due to my lifelong resentment of men always being expected to make the first move and ask the woman out, etc.

She was also on the autism spectrum just like I am.

I wanted sex but she didn't.

Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual?

Yes.
A portion of most communities are asexual.

I think asexuality is more common amongst autistic folk than NT folk.

Source: my best guess.

Yes. It seems like asexuality is more common among people on the spectrum relative to the general population.

Atypical sexualities in general are more common among people on the spectrum. I seem to recall it's even a question on the diagnostic inventory.

yeah i started dating her in 2021, and thats also why some of my comments on here for the past months or more have been expressing bitterness and anger, resentment, since it was an unfulfilling relationship in that regard, another thing to mention, i stayed with her longer than i should have because i was hoping eventually she would open up or become more comfortable sexually around me, sadly didn't happen.

I also still get angry and depressed over this which obviously i'm aware is outside of my control, i envy and resent people who got to experience dating, having a relationship around the normal traditional timeline, as in, people who got to have a BF/GF in their teens and early 20s.

Yes, i'm aware i can't change the past, thank you for stating the obvious.

A portion of ANY community is going to include asexuals. They are not unique to the autism community.

I don't really understand the OP.
If this woman wasn't interested in sex it doesn't mean she was asexual.
She might have been, but did she say that?
If she did say that, it's not necessarily because she was autistic.
It's possible her autism had nothing to do with it.
Maybe she just wasn't ready.
Maybe she wasn't feeling the chemistry.
Maybe she had trauma.
Maybe she had gynaecological / medical concerns.
Maybe she wanted to wait to know you more.
Maybe it was against her religion or cultural practice.
Maybe she wasn't getting aroused.

The list is endless.

Unless she told you she was asexual, how do you know she was?
And, if she was, why would you be angry?

A portion of any type of people are asexual and I'm part of that portion.

yeah, as few others have said, maybe she just wasn't into me, if that is the case, then i wonder why she let me kiss and make out with her, and do activities, go out together, meet each others families, etc.