bee33 wrote:
I think it's terribly rude to lie, which is something that NTs, and maybe autistics too, do all the time for the sake of politeness. Not that I would want someone to go out of their way to say something unpleasant to me, but I would rather someone be blunt than leave me guessing or leave me in the dark about what they think, how they feel, or what they want.
There's a theory that people deserve the truth because that is how they create their understanding of the world, therefore you should offer the truth. I agree with that, at least most of the time.
I don't know that I've specifically confronted someone about this, so I don't know what their reaction would be if I told them that this is how I feel.
Ya, lies, especially white ones. Like, I get it that sometimes lying might be necessary, like maybe making up a story about the sick, old pet retiring to a farm instead of telling a child the truth about it getting killed, but in the case of most white lies, there are no excuses.
Not saying I don't ever lie; I do, but in my defense, it's about survival. It'd be way harder to get by in this NT society without playing by their rules at least somewhat... then again, some NTs might think this about their own lies, too, so maybe I'm just a hypocrite?