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09 Mar 2024, 5:05 pm

Strongman Tom Stoltman Says the 'Gym Saved My Life' After Struggles with Autism and Depression

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"World's Strongest Man" winner Tom Stoltman says strength athletics is "a lonely sport." For the 28-year-old athlete, that's a good thing.

At eight, Stoltman was diagnosed with autism, he tells PEOPLE

"The school I went from 5 to 12 onwards was very, very difficult for me," says Stoltman. "I ended up just saying to my mom, 'I'm not going back to school because it's so, so hard.' Then one day I just said that I want to tell my friends that I've got autism, and if they don't like it, they don't like me, but if they accept me for who I am, then that's fine."

His academic struggles weren't for a lack of trying. Stoltman says he "liked to learn" when he could get things written down, but struggled to retain the "textbooks and verbal stuff.

Stoltman says that at school, he often worried about feeling safe without his family by his side. "I would cry, break down. I would have my hood on. I wouldn't talk to anybody else outside my family," he says.

"My siblings had to support me as well, and they sacrificed a lot of time away from my mom and dad so they could help, and so that I could get the help I needed," the athlete explains.

Stoltman's older brother, Luke Stoltman, who is a strongman as well, encouraged him to go to the gym. And while strength training would later become his career, at the time, Stoltman, who is Scottish, just wanted to play soccer. "That was my coping mechanism," he says.

Stoltman thought that soccer (or football, considering he's a Scotsman) would be his path. "That's what I thought God gifted me because that's the only time I didn't feel different, when I had a football at my feet," he says. But as it became clear that professional football was an unrealistic goal, his mental health declined.

Stoltman tells PEOPLE, "I locked myself in my room for three or four months. My mom and dad would pass me food in my room. They were really worried about me, like suicidal thoughts...I could have been in a care home and stuff. That's when my brother just came to me and said, 'Look, come to the gym and let's assume we can change your life around.'"

And this time, "the gym saved my life," Stoltman says. It wasn't long before he had enough success with strength training that he quit his job working security at a construction site to pursue Strongman competitions, where athletes do seemingly-impossible tasks like pulling trucks with a rope, deadlifting over 1,000 lbs. and throwing 16.5-ft. logs.

"I didn't want to blow the opportunity I had with Strongman, like I did with football," he says. "I just quit football because things were getting hard and I didn't enjoy it. I enjoyed Strongman, and I enjoyed lifting weights."

In 2021, Stoltman won the title of World's Strongest Man, and in 2022 he did it again.

"To me, mentally, he's the strongest person ever right now," his wife Sinead tells PEOPLE. With soccer, she says, "There was just a lot that he couldn't cope very well with, like having to train at a certain time, and eat food at a certain time, and getting told what to do all the time."

But now, the strongman's wife says, Stoltman has a new-found ease with things that he struggled with in the past, like public speaking. "He'll just talk in front of not just Scotland, but the whole world actually, and he is just so confident in himself."

With a smile on her face, Sinead says, "I don't see Tom as just the world's strongest man. I just see him as Tom, the person who's grown to be a better version of himself rather than just being the world's strongest man.

Glad to see things have worked out so well for the big guy.


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09 Mar 2024, 5:12 pm

this an encouraging story, thanks for the post!


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09 Mar 2024, 5:31 pm

This story made my day. Thank you for sharing it.


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10 Mar 2024, 1:25 am

I found out about Tom when I was watching a strongman comp a few years ago. What I don't like in that article is the narrative about his academic struggles, which feeds the myth that autism means not very smart. In fact, why would his autism make academics difficult? Perhaps he had dyslexia or ADHD, but doggone it, autism is a communication disorder, sensory processing disorder, and we think and see the world differently. This should not make learning history, science, long division and the difference between an adjective and an adverb difficult.



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10 Mar 2024, 10:30 am

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the myth that autism means not very smart. I


I thought the myth was that autistic people, the ones with low support needs, are geniuses or at least much smarter than other people. But, like you say "autism is a communication disorder, sensory processing disorder, and we think and see the world differently." It makes perfect sense to me that it could cause problems in school. But maybe more for a big strong boy like Tom than for a girl.


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06 May 2024, 2:26 pm

Tom Stoltman wins World's Strongest Man competition for third time in four years

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"Tom Stoltman wins World's Strongest Man competition for third time in four years
Between his two nicknames, Tom Stoltman prefers “The Albatross” more than the “King of the Stones.” For one, the 6-foot-8 strongman enjoys the former because of the reference to his massive wingspan.

“I don’t really care about being ‘King of the Stones,’” Stoltman told USA TODAY Sports on Sunday. “I just want to be ‘King of the World,’ and that’s what I’ve done this weekend.”
Stoltman, 29, wrapped up his third “World’s Strongest Man” title in four years moments earlier. He led the 2024 World's Strongest Man finals for a nearly wire-to-wire victory between the two days of lifting and moving and clinched the championship by winning his signature event, the Atlas Stones.

"I’ve worked for a third title for a while now and to do it before 30 years old is an achievement,” the Scotland native said. “I’m just happy with myself. Happy with my performance. Kept my head.”

Stoltman finished with 53 total points – 5.5 points ahead of second place Mitchell Hooper, the 2023 champion. Hooper could not deny Stoltman another title, like he did a year ago when he prevented Stoltman from pulling off the rare three-peat.

“(It) kind of broke me, not getting that title,” said Stoltman, who finished second in 2023.

But having Hooper in the World’s Strongest Man is “the best thing to happen to me,” Stoltman said. Hooper’s win last year forced Stoltman to improve conditioning for the competition. Stoltman began running – two or three kilometers – every week and began using hyperbaric chambers for recovery. The workload in the gym also slightly increased.
“When we’re both 100 percent, we’re both unbeatable,” Stoltman said. “Fortunately, I topped him in this competition. But he’s going to be back. We’ll be looking to take titles back and forth from each other in the near future.”

Stoltman never finished worse than third in any of the six events over the two-day finals. He tied for the most points in the Max Axle (four reps) and Keg Toss (five reps) on Saturday to put himself into the lead after day one.

Stoltman, who weighs about 400 pounds, is now tied with American Bill Kazmaeir (1980, 1981, 1982) for third on the WSM's all-time winners list. Mariusz Pudzianowski holds the record with five championships, while four others (including American Brian Shaw) have four.

“I want to be the greatest,” Stoltman said. “I don’t even think I’m at my prime.”

Evan Singleton finished in third place as the highest-placing American in the event. He was also the lone American to advance to finals. Singleton finished tied for fourth last year and was the best American then as well.
Luke Stoltman, the brother of Tom, came in ninth place only a few weeks removed from winning Europe's Strongest Man. Their shared YouTube account, “Stoltman Brothers,” has nearly 250,000 subscribers who watch their fitness and gym content. They filmed plenty of behind-the-scenes footage throughout the week in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, where the WSM was held for the second straight year.

Tom Stoltman has become more active in using their platform to spotlight autism awareness.

“People with autism get labeled as disabled and all that kind of stuff,” Stoltman said. “I wanted it to be a superpower – and look at me. I’m a three-time World’s Strongest Man, living with autism every single day of my life.”

Stoltman said he was looking forward to having an adult beverage Sunday night to celebrate; he’d abstained from alcohol since the fall to enhance his training.

He did not have a booze preference.

“I’m going to have a few drinks tonight 100 percent,” Stoltman said. “I have not (drank) for a long, long time so, yeah, anything that can make me drunk and not remember the night would be good.”


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06 May 2024, 7:19 pm

Congratulations Tom


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