evank1 wrote:
utterly absurd wrote:
Hello, welcome to WP! This is a problem many autistic people have. I've had similar difficulties over the years and still don't have any friends, and after a while I started feeling like it was my fault or there was something wrong with me. I joined WP about a month ago and since then I've realized how common of an issue this is. It doesn't make it any less frustrating but just remember it's not your fault. There are lots of places out there to meet people so don't give up!
The thing is I'm not even diagnosed, I've just suspected myself of being on the spectrum.
when you get older and reflect on your past experiences a bit more, you realize the mistakes you made or like something that you could've done different in that situation, and it was due to your bad way of thinking that got you that negative outcome.
It was not obvious at the time but I do think now that that misery was entirely self inflicted, but I didn't view it that way as a teenager.
Everyone makes mistakes and it's easy to focus on what you could have done differently in the past. It's easier said than done and I struggle a lot with this, but worrying about things you can't change now won't get you anywhere, it's best to learn from your mistakes and then focus on what you can do differently in the future.
Again, it's easier said than done and it probably doesn't help you very much either, but it's important not to get discouraged by mistakes you made in the past. Keep trying and I hope things get better for you!
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Diagnosed ASD/ADHD age 5. Finally understood that age 17.
Have very strong opinions so sorry if I offend anyone--I still respect your opinion.
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