How to make fun of/tease a person in a friendly way?

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Emu Egg
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25 Nov 2010, 9:35 am

I think teasing people is something you feel when you are talking to someone...you can't act it. You have it or not.
And If you don't have it...watch the way people proceed when they tease each other and try to find that fun, because you cannot tease people if you have no interest of teasing them...

I am very GOOD at teasing people in a friendly way even with persons I have never met in the past, but it's because I' m a very sociable girl and I like others... I had the opposite problem, many men I tease think that I'm interested by more, which is sometime not the case at all....but it's my nature! I try not to tease guys i'm not interested, which is not always easy in my case because it's kind of a way '''to break the ice''' with new people and make each other comfortable in a conversation.

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Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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25 Nov 2010, 10:04 am

The reason teasin' works is cause it allows for a nice back and forth that you dont have to think about too much.

Just say something absurd and be a goofball. It doesn't have to be based on any kind of reality as long as you are able to hang with eachother. Its your own private improv comedy

avoid passive aggressive jabs at all costs


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25 Nov 2010, 10:09 am

It can be difficult to tease (in a friendly way) a person you don't know well, unless you are sure you really like each other and the person has a good sense of humor / reacts well to friendly teasing. The teasing/flirting you describe is probably not so easy either, some people are good at it, they seem to know naturally what to say, but I think for most people its just not that easy to say the right thing to get the reaction you want. Maybe it is possible to learn tho, I don't know.

But there is other things you can do, if it is important for you to use humor, instead of teasing the person, you could say something funny about yourself (if the person knows you enough to have noticed whatever you think may be considered a little funny), or about something else like a funny situation or event, that would work too. But I think the most important is to be yourself, use your kind of humor, the things you think are funny, not all the girls like the kind of guys who tease and flirt like the guy you mentioned, personally I think serious and/or shy guys are attractive, I tend to think the guy who flirts and tease so easily may be like that will all the girls.


That's the way things come clear. All of a sudden. And then you realize how obvious they've been all along. ~Madeleine L'Engle


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25 Nov 2010, 12:29 pm

I don't know. It's really hard if you don't know the person. If you notice the other person is able to laugh at themselves for something it's a sign that they won't be upset if you tease them about it. It's also easier if you tell jokes that match the other person's sense of humor.

It seems like a lot of NT guys are just more willing to take a risk than I am. They're willing to use trial and error to get the results they want. If I attempt to make a joke but get a luke-warm response that I don't know whether to interpret as offense I immediately feel like crawling under a rock and staying there for the rest of the day. I'll perseverate on what I did wrong for the rest of the time and just completely shut down.


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25 Nov 2010, 4:47 pm

There is no nice or friendly way to tease.

I'm not weird, you're just too normal.