Anyone else feel cheated by the school system?
Too bad. I was stuck with my less-intelligent peers too. Just because they were the same age as me, didn't make them any nicer to me! And I don't think I benefited socially, either.
My husband lucked out. He was in some kind of school where they had three grades together in the same classroom, and within that the kids were taught according to skill level. So the better-at-math fourth graders would be in the same math class as the not-quite-as-good-at-math sixth graders, for instance. (He also got to do some independent study type of classes.) That sounds like a better system to me than "Riverotter has to sit there bored while the other kids try to understand this concept...yet again."
I feel like the school system failed me big time. It gave me the message that being intellectually gifted meant that I could do anything I wanted in life. I sure wish someone would have clued me in that there are, um, a few other skills you need. Or that I had a problem with socializing. Or that sitting quietly in class and never causing any problems is a major sign of a major problem. Or that your SAT/college board scores forming the core of your self-image is a trifle unhealthy.
I thought NTs were supposed to be able to read the non-verbal cues. So where were they?
Palpatine: do you mean, "It cannot be proven that children kept at a "traditional level" have fewer social-related issues than those not kept with their peers"?
Or something along those lines... (I know a double-negative is not actually logically equivalent to a positive where statistics is concerned...)
The double negative was intentional (I was hoping someone would notice). There is some research that grade accleration does not cause additional social issues, but may instead reduce the social-related issues. I would link to the research, but my posts are not high enough.
Check out "Hoagie's Gifted" (not a plug!) I do not have any connection to whomever operates the site.
My high school experience (grades 8-12) was horrendous. Although my grades were excellent in grade eight, they progressively slipped, semester by semester, as I struggled with poor central coherence (ability to look at the big picture, and contextualise correctly) and near non-existent organisational skills. Kids bullied me - usually by verbal abuse, calling me "psycho", "ret*d", "reject with the girls" etc. That made it extremely hard to concentrate on my studies. Other kids were able to concentrate on both the social aspects of school, so I figured I ought to be able to as well. Alas no, thus anxiety about failing in the social realm crowded out the academic side of things. Those kids got away with doing untold psychological damage, as well as distracting me from what we were actually at school for.
But you WERE held back! I was also! SURE, I advanced to the next grade each year. I followed the standard pattern. So HOW was I held back? I was WAY ahead in several areas. The schools either didn't have the ability or the desire to fulfill the needs. BTW you ECHOED what I said even in the first grade! When I think of all the stupid things they did. HECK, they EVEN had me study words I ALREADY knew!
In some ways, the educational system has thrown out things that were developed in the 1700s-1800s, even though they were GOOD ideas. They ALSO didn't adopt some nice things from the 1940s-1960s! NOW, they probably don't even use nice things from the 1980s-2008! I could mention just 6-7 ideas that could set the educational system on fire if they caught on.
I can't complain about my life outcomes, but they knew, were monitoring me and never told me. Not even after I graduated. Caused a few meltdowns in HS math teachers who didn't understand what they were teaching. I didn't know what I was doing to them emotionally when I showed the class what it ment.
Now, back to the "I can't complain about my life outcomes" ... do I tell my daughter because she clearly has AS and plenty of intellect and spunk to melt HS math teachers? Lord help me if she decides to do it for fun!
Similar Topics | |
---|---|
Medical Alert System |
30 Mar 2024, 2:27 pm |
bad day at school |
08 May 2024, 5:01 pm |
School for Autistic Girls |
03 May 2024, 9:28 pm |
School bus assault by aide in Colorado |
15 Apr 2024, 1:59 pm |