Invasion of my spare time, major meltdown

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My brother is near constantly having his obnoxious friends over for sleepovers/dinner/etc. I hate it! My mum doesn't understand.

What an NT who actually used their apparent empathy would discover: I spend five days a week having to get up at the crack of dawn and then socialise with strangers. Then my mother lets my brother's mates come to our house at the weekend and make all sorts of noise in the mornings when I want to sleep, therefore relieving me of my two days OFF from the BS of school!

My brother's mate has been sleeping over last night, and they woke me up this morning. I didn't get TOO mad, because I knew I have Sunday to myself. Then they broke my laptop by fighting near it (the keyboard stopped working properly, but it's working now). Then I find out that he's staying over TONIGHT as well!

That's when I lost it completely. I was shouting and screaming and I smashed a glass ornament against the floor. Then my mum pushed me over onto the floor really hard, and shouted at me and said the boys hadn't done anything wrong (they had, they woke me up and broke my computer), and that I'm misbehaving (I couldn't help it, I lost control). I explained how it makes me feel, but she doesn't listen.

Every time, she tells my brother, "If you upset Gina it's the last time you're having friends over," but then she just lets him get away with it and punishes me for reacting to whatever they're doing!

I think that it is vitally important that you learn to keep your anger in check because people will always remember a violent outburst but never what provoked it. That's just the way it is.

Another piece of advice (coming from Mr. Hermit ) try to get out of the house, and focus your attention off your brother and his friends. Often times if you show people signs that they are getting under your skin, they try to provoke you even more.

If your mother pushed you over, it sounds like she needs to be put in jail for abuse.

I lived through that sort of thing as well. My sister would have her friends over and they'd pick on me sometimes, but of course my parents wouldn't do anything about it, using the excuse "they were just joking" or "that's just how girls are." My parents even had a rule that said if she had friends over, I was not to disturb them, which I was OK with. I would often go to my room, shut the door, and not come out until they left. That was the only way to keep them off my back.

On the other hand, the few times I had friends in my life if I had them over, my sister would become friends with them and they'd push me aside to hang out with her. I never understood why I was forbidden to disturb her and her friends, but she was allowed to disturb me and my friends. Our parents would occasionally ASK her to leave us alone(as opposed to TELLING me to leave her and her friends alone), but she never had to since they didn't believe in punishing girls, there was no reason for her to comply with their request and not bother us.

My sister was intentionally trying to steal my friends, because she wanted to have all the friends and me to have no friends. I thought she should have her friends and I should have mine, but she didn't agree to that line of thinking not only on friends but on other issues as well.

I'm not sure I know what the solution is, other than locking yourself in your room and rarely coming out, if that is possible, to avoid them. Breaking things isn't going to help either. Good luck and I hope you can work this out.

tell your mother that your brother is having these guys over because they are having steamy gay sex all the time... you can hear them all the time... and now you found out that they want to have groupsex with you as well... especially in the morning on saturdays and sundays, while the old folks still sleep...

that will stop the show i guess.