Us aspies, are more likely to find our soulmate.

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Lets say there's 6 billion people alive. and 10% of those 6billion fall somewhere on the autistic spectrum, then that means 0.6billion people are autistic in some way. Now lets say we all focus on finding our soul mates, looking online for boards like these, or aspergers groups or whatever, looking for people with the same characteristics. So basically we would be sorting through 0.6billion people in the world, instead of sorting through it all.

For example, it would be easier to find a soul mate on wrong planet, cause we're all aspergers, compared to looking around on who knows what? (baking forums?) (lol).

That assumes that the characteristic of being NT or AS is a crucial factor in whether or not someone is a soulmate. Why is that necessarily more important than say, sharing an abiding love for baking?

You could make similar statements about many populations- ex. by race, religion, etc. There are probably more people on the autistic spectrum than there are Native Americans in the US (so they would hypothetically have an even smaller pool to search through). Native Americans from the same tribe share an important cultural background which might be very important in establishing lifelong relationships. There are many similar comparisons which can be made, so I don't necessarily think people with AS have an advantage in this department over anyone else.

Last edited by LostInSpace on 22 Aug 2008, 11:17 pm, edited 2 times in total.

By all means, for the USA it's a wonderful idea. And the UK. But don't forget most of the billions don't master enough English to be on WP (here you see mostly Anglo-Saxons). So for people from other countries, like me, it's practically useless. I don't even think there's another person from Israel regularly on here, let alone a potential soul mate in my age range.

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

Barely a fifth of aspies are in a long-term relationship.

The divorce rate more the few married aspies is at least 80%.

Source of statistics please?

The concept of a soul mate is ridiculous.I think the concept causes people to put up with abuse and even dish it out.

I guess you were trying to be emotionally reassuring and not necessarily logical, but your argument is not sound.

Your argument makes a few assumptions that are debatable:

• There exists in the world one and only one soulmate for each person.
• All soulmates of people with Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition will themselves have Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition.
• All soulmates of people without Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition will themselves not have Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition.
• All persons with Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition know that they have Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition.
• All persons with Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition participate in groups or forums for persons with Asperger's syndrome and other autism spectrum conditions.

Now let's assume all these premises hold (although I am not suggesting they all actually do). If 1/0.6 billion is the soulmate of someone with Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition, the probability of that soulmate being in any particular forum or group is going to be insignificant (assuming 100 regular, contributing members to a forum such as this one and an equal likelihood of any of those 0.6 billion being members, 1/0.6 billion/100). If probabilities were calculated for the general population instead, the probability would be even more minuscule; but reality shows that people stand more than an atomically small chance of meeting a soulmate.

Your argument does nothing to prove or disprove your conclusion that people with Asperger's syndrome or another autism spectrum condition are more likely to find a soulmate.

Also four times as many men are diagnosed than women. Thats a lot more sword fighting than statistics on homosexuality would support.

I agree with you 100%. I found my soulmate on this website. I didn't set out to find him here, but I did. Thank freaking goodness.

I guess I don't really believe in soulmates either. But that is interesting, so aspie-like, looking at the statistics and numbers

There are other places on the web, but I did an informal poll here on WP a while back.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt71076.html


It doesn't take age into consideration, but RDOS was working on a more scientific version that he was going to put on his website. The results of my poll show different results for males and female aspies.

Females: 20 (53%) married at one point / 18 never married.
Males: 18 (26%) married at one point / 51 never married.

Separation Rates:
Females: 12 married now / 8 separated now (40%).
Males: 15 married now / 3 separated now (17%).

The separation rates are also flawed in that they do not take into consideration that someone who is currently married may be on their 10th marriage. Still, it does indicate that aspies who marry tend to stay that way, but not necessarily to the same person.

Hopefully, RDOS will fix the problems with this poll on his website.

You might have more success on something like a Star Trek forum than a baking forum!

soulmates is a myth, theres more chance of a blizzard of identical snowflakes to exist

While I believe the 0.001% chance of finding my true soulmate, I'll honestly be happy with any girl who likes me, knows just enough basic social skills to blend in in a crowd, and can give me regular physical affection. Anything else is an added bonus, and by no means required.

I've been married for 9 years but he sure as hell isn't my soul mate Okay don't get me wrong, he is not "bad" by any means but we truly are not compatible and have many differences (and yes he is considered "neuro-typical" *I truly do not like that term because no one really is, may not be under the spectrum but who really is neuro-typical, but thats a whole other issue all together*). But I wouldn't divorce him either, not a good reason for that. Besides, there is no such thing as a "perfect" marriage or relationship... whether or not someone under the spectrum is in a relationship with someone else under the spectrum or someone under the spectrum is in a relationship with someone not under the spectrum. No such thing as perfection. Even someone like me doesn't really believe in soul-mates!

Agreed.

There are no soulmates or soul twins or anything like that.

We are all in a range from slightly different to very different.