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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: there is not someone for everyone |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2017, 11:58 am
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Replies: 140
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| Truthfully, does anyone actually know any pensioner's that have never been in a relationship? I can't think of any. So, you never know... You mean old age pensioners? Maybe none of them live that long :skull: https://s30.postimg.org/8ek4la2m9/live_long_and_prosper.png A problem with a lot of these ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: The Friend/Lover Dichotomy |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2017, 8:13 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,415
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| I find this dichotomy to be a big problem for a somewhat different reason. I'm aromantic, so do not want a romantic relationship. It is something which looks quite repulsive from my POV. But nor do I want exclusively platonic stuff. However non platonic friendships, especially those which involve a... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Does being afraid of sex count as asexual? |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2017, 6:14 am
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Replies: 26
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| ^They might do it to please a partner. But asexuals don't experience attraction so it'd make no sense to have a partner, would it? Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction which is only one a number of types of attraction humans experience. Something of the order of 80%+ of asexuals are alloroma... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Nonbinary could soon be a legal gender option in California |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2017, 5:24 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 899
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| This becomes interesting, at least for me, since North Carolina said you can only use the bathroom indicated by your birth certificate.* *Actually, it was already interesting, since many states merely require a note from your Doctor to change the sex on your birth certificate, and no surgical proce... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Nonbinary could soon be a legal gender option in California |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2017, 5:15 am
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Replies: 7
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| http://www.latimes.com/politics/essential/la-pol-ca-essential-politics-updates-california-democrats-propose-adding-1485465341-htmlstory.html This is going in the right direction IMO. There is a small but growing more visible population of us who identify as neither male or female and for us to be l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: The Friend/Lover Dichotomy |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2017, 2:16 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,415
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| I find this dichotomy to be a big problem for a somewhat different reason. I'm aromantic, so do not want a romantic relationship. It is something which looks quite repulsive from my POV. But nor do I want exclusively platonic stuff. However non platonic friendships, especially those which involve an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What would dating be like if aspies invented it? |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2017, 8:22 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,760
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| I think the man and the woman would each bring a pen and notepad to their first date and check off each other's desirable traits on their laundry lists... no muss, no fuss... and no silly body language nonsense to throw us off. :-D In theory this is what "dating sites (and the "dating age... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What would dating be like if aspies invented it? |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2017, 3:40 am
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Replies: 24
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| I think the man and the woman would each bring a pen and notepad to their first date and check off each other's desirable traits on their laundry lists... no muss, no fuss... and no silly body language nonsense to throw us off. :-D In theory this is what "dating sites (and the "dating age... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you have wasted talents? |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2017, 7:50 am
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Replies: 45
Views: 1,804
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I appear to have a talent for physical affection.
Since I also find romantic and monogamous relationships repulsive it winds up being rather useless and frustrating. Given that the only context the vast majority of people want physical affection is within an amantonormative relationship  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Done Wasting Time I Quit Dating |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2016, 7:33 am
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Replies: 46
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| Conventinal dating might not work because it was made for NTs. A new type of dating and coupling tailored to Aspies might be a solution. it would have to employ a type of communication that didn't rely so much on body language, and was more explicitly verbal. In theory you'd expect dating sites to ... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Sad / Disconnected from my queer community |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2016, 5:23 am
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Replies: 12
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| I've found more acceptance as a autistic pansexual trans woman in the BDSM community than I have in the LGBT community. LGBT doesn't like people who are "crazy or weird", since LGBT was viewed as a mental disorder for so long. Hence why they push autistics out. Though I've found a lot of ... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Sad / Disconnected from my queer community |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2016, 4:37 am
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AspieUtah wrote: Despite its constant bleating about "inclusion" and "diversity" the LGBT community is anything but. Don't believe me?
Sometimes how inclusive and diverse an organisation is seems to have an inverse correlation with how much fuss they make about it. |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Sad / Disconnected from my queer community |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2016, 4:31 am
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| Mhm, I feel you. The problem in my case is that I have absolutely zero grasp on romance. I've learnt to fake it damned well but it tires me out. Sappy small talk gets old fast for me. I'm aromantic, a term which I only recently found out existed. For me "faking it" would mean putting a hu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can you be Aspie and affectionate? |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2016, 4:43 am
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Replies: 84
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| I also experienced very little physical contact as a child, and like physical affection very much. However, the reverse: I am extremely sensitive to movements and noises, so for example I absolutely can't sleep at night with another person in the same bed (likely even in the same room, and sometime... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what exactly does DOUBLE STANDARD mean? |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2016, 3:59 am
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Replies: 27
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| The term "double standard" is used quite frequently within a gender relations' context. A classic manifestation of the "double standard": 1. A man cheats on his wife many times, yet is considered a stud/Don Juan/Casanova, etc. by those around him (including, sometimes, his wife)... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: wut are social skills |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2016, 12:29 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,260
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kraftiekortie wrote: Being able to start conversations.
Knowing when it's your turn to speak during a conversation.
Also including knowing what are "appropriate" topics of conversation.
Knowing when to change the subject and when not to change the subject.
Knowing when, and how, to end conversations. |
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