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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is this abuse? |
| Hairybunny |
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Posted: 04 May 2022, 10:48 pm
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| @Sweet leaf yes that’s exactly it! My mother was like that too where she’d say I could talk to her about anything, but her actions did not match her words. I’d also notice how my friends seemed so close to their parents and genuinely enjoyed spending time together. Most of the time I’d try to spend ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is this abuse? |
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Posted: 04 May 2022, 10:14 pm
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| @Sweetleaf Yeah I feel very similar to you in that I don’t feel like I grow up in an abusive home but there are definitely some things that stuck out to me as not ok now that I’m older. I think most of what I dealt with was emotional abuse mainly from my mother. My father always avoided me prior to ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is this abuse? |
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Posted: 04 May 2022, 8:28 pm
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| I've been thinking a lot about how my mother treated me growing up. I often felt alone, unsupported and emotionally neglected but I don't know if what I've been through would be considered abuse? I wrote down a bunch of memories about my mom today (including a very recent one) and would like to hear... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2021, 12:03 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 1,547
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| I immediately thought of that after what I said about the better food brand (although that comment was a direct response to my mom calling her usual food garbage) and that’s when I sort of backtracked and started telling her that it really doesn’t matter to me which brand she gets I’m just specifica... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2021, 4:56 pm
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Replies: 33
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I’m really glad I decided to post here because you’ve all been extremely helpful and I hope you all know how much I appreciate your thoughtful comments! Really, I feel like a weight has been lifted just hearing from those with more experience then me  thank you! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2021, 12:00 pm
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Replies: 33
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| @ toadsnail Wow, thank you so much for this awesomely well thought out comment! I really appreciate the effort :D I’ve tried many times in recent years to ask her why she gets so upset during these arguments but it’s usually met with either her shutting down or her replying something like “because y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 11:01 pm
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Replies: 33
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| Sorry, I wasn’t suggesting that my personal beliefs are that Christianity is inherently strict or abusive. That’s just how my mother perceives it based on her personal experience with her mother. Due to her abusive upbringing she seemed to want to distance herself from anything remotely resembling w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 8:26 pm
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| I appreciate your point, I really do. And most of the time I do let these arguments pass for exactly the reasons you’ve described. However, my cat has a heart condition which makes it vital to keep salt out of her diet. I realize one smoked fish would not harm the average cat, (I’ve studied animal n... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 4:40 pm
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| She was raised in a very abusive household by a narcissistic mother and an absent father. She often tells me horrifying stories of what my grandmother did and said to her as a child. In fact, Out of my grandmother’s six children only 2 still speak to her, my mother (who somehow became her primary ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 4:29 pm
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| I would have thought that was the case if this was a one time thing but unfortunately this has always been the way she acts during an argument. That’s why I thought my way of interacting with her was perhaps flawed. I have straight up asked her after an argument if the way I communicate with her is ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 3:14 pm
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Replies: 33
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| I had a sense that something like this was going on. But there’s always that voice in the back of my mind that says because I’m on the spectrum I may be misinterpreting something, so I can never fully trust myself. I want to trust what she says because she’s my mom but when it comes to things I KNOW... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 1:09 pm
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| @Edna 3362 I think this is what she means when I’m not being “human” enough. Though I’ve tried really hard to develop a warmer and gentler tone when discussing things with her and it doesn’t seem to have any effect. Perhaps it’s my mannerisms as well? (I’m often pretty stiff and tend to make myself ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 12:57 pm
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| You’re probably right. Seeming like a smart ass is something that has worried me a lot in the past so I’ve developed this really gentle tone when discussing such things with people (particularly her since she has a very combative tone). I think I also try to keep things calm by explaining that the r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 12:53 am
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| This is precisely what I was trying to explain to her! I seems no amount of facts or reasoning can make her see why this is so important. I did end up throwing away the salmon and giving my cat her regular food as per usual. Still, I wish she would listen to me once in a while. Especially since I’m ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the crazy one? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2021, 12:31 am
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| Hey guys, I really don’t post here too often but lately there’s been something that’s really bothering me and I’d really love to hear some insight on it. Since COVID started I’ve been stuck at home with my mom. We usually get along pretty well but she randomly starts arguments about silly things. I’... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Driving school |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2015, 8:47 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Firstly I want to thank you for your comment! :) Unfortunately I had a talk with my mom just a few moments ago which ended in her getting quite mad at me and telling me that I HAVE to learn to drive soon because she can't be my "taxi" anymore. I just don't understand... I barely ever ask h... |
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