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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Having twins with someone scared |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2026, 2:04 pm
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Replies: 2
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| What are you saying? All I could understand from your post was that your girlfriend is pregnant with twins and it has scared the bedickens out of you. Which is understandable. Is she in the same country as you? Do you both have good family support? You will need either her family or yours to physica... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Aggression with my 20 year old Autistic son |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2026, 1:29 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 2,492
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| Have either you or he tried a martial arts class? I say this not knowing your son's level of executive function. My kid has ADHD and is very large. Before he was properly medicated he was pretty rough with his dad and I. We have had him in a defensive martial arts class for many years. The class has... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Learning how to become a good playmate |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2026, 1:20 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 2,701
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| You're going to have to focus on what interests her and go from there. If she is motivated, she will communicate. If a person is interesting to her, she will pay attention to them. Try not to get too frustrated if it seems like she is behind in some areas. Her brain is working on things, just not in... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Do you think my mom's comments were insensitive? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2026, 1:10 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 3,928
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| I think this was just a misunderstanding. It sounds to me like your mom fancies David Beckham a little, and was startled to consider that her own son may look like him. Maybe your dad looked like David Beckham when he was younger, which would make sense if she fancies Beckham and your hair works in ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways in which NTs lack social graces?? |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2025, 12:22 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,768
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| I'm complimented that Fnord took the time to write out that long list of my positive attributes. I actually do some of those things on purpose as a power move. For example, my son was having some problems at school this week, so I purposefully showed up unannounced at his school and waited to speak ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do some NTs pick up on our differences more than others? |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2025, 12:06 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Yes. I have a master's in sociology and originally this was one of the things I was going to look into. I'm NT and I'm one of these people who can pick up on autism traits pretty quickly. Other things too, but autism is what we're talking about here. You can kind of make your own judgements about wh... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Computer Science in University, any tips or advice? |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2025, 11:18 am
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Replies: 2
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| My husband and I both have degrees in computer science. He still works in that area. I do not. He has been very successful in staying relevant. Get certifications. Make sure you understand the logic behind each step. Such as why does it work this way. Get a working knowledge of other areas of comput... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: not being able to physically speak in some situations |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2025, 11:10 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 652
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| It's basically a problem with your executive function with most people. It's been called many things over the years. It can happen pretty easily with people on the autism spectrum, but it happens to other types of people. It happens to me sometimes too, for physical reasons. I suggest taking away as... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it worth trying to explain autism to an NT |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2025, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 9
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| No one wants to hear in depth explanations about autism or anything else. Trust me. It's not just neurotypicals, either. I am fairly certain that there are autistic people who do not know that they are on the spectrum who are assuming that other people are on the spectrum who are not, in fact, on th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Damage/Brain |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2025, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 3
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| People on the autism spectrum seem to become drained by different things than neurotypical people, and also seem to charge up their batteries by different things. I usually hear that social obligations or emotions drain autists the most, and that they need recovery time with their special interest o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone taken you aside to explain an unwritten rule? |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2025, 12:10 pm
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Replies: 20
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| I would put How to Win Friends and Influence People in one of my top five best books of all time list. I don't think one should get too hung up on the word "friend" for Carnegie's purpose's. His tactics help a person get along pleasantly while building friendly and useful associations. I t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Disagreements between parents |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2025, 1:12 pm
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Replies: 4
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| On one hand yes, being on iPads too much is a problem. But on the other hand, this is just a part of the young generation. It's good to minimize it, but it would be very difficult to keep it away from your kid entirely. Do you remember when Tipper Gore decided that heavy metal music was turning all ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Autistic 4 year old with ability to read large words |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2025, 1:03 pm
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Replies: 3
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| Have you tried sitting with her and reading older children's stories to her while following the words with your finger? When I say "older" I mean like really old classic stories like Alice in Wonderland. The words in those old books are more challenging than modern ones. Congratulations on... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Is There Any Shame for Returning to School at 40? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2025, 10:40 am
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Replies: 2
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| As long as it will lead to an actual job. If it's something that will not increase pay or likelihood of getting a position, I say just study on your own. It shouldn't be hard, except for the dealing with other people part. Standards are starting to fall, so you being an older student should make the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I'm planning to tell my parents I'm on the spectrum |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2025, 10:30 am
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Replies: 11
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| I'm glad the unveiling went well. There's a big difference between a school deciding a diagnosis for a person and that person deciding for himself. It sounds like your parents agreed and knew you are the best authority on your own self. Double Retired- I wonder what else your 90 year old might see a... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: RFK JR dated view of Autism |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2025, 11:06 am
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Replies: 109
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| Yeah I mean really, I understand what ASPOM is saying, but optimally, we do want scientific research to be replicated by all kinds of people, including people we don't like. If that's done and then the results are consistent, then we can really know something. There are some things that were obvious... |
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