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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 11:12 am
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Replies: 74
Views: 5,622
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| I think for most people the changes they are willing to make for a partner would already align or at least not impact on the personal goals / values / preferences they already have. I wouldn't agree to something that I felt really uncomfortable doing, regardless of how much I loved the other person.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 10:19 am
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Replies: 74
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| "^ What do you mean by people changing “certain things about themselves for their partner?” What things? I’m more about accepting people as they are flaws and all because I’ve learned, through experience, that people often don’t and won’t change. (Flaws can even be endearing or become endearing... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: How do you relate to other women if you are able? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 9:21 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 10,119
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| I can chat to anyone when I have to. But in terms of actually bonding with other women as a friend, it's normally over a mutual interest like gaming, programming, investing or whatever else. In fact most of the friends I've had (male or female) start over some shared hobby/project. I get bored just ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Does anyone else desire something other than sex? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 9:05 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 797
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| I want sex but at the same time I am scared of it!! ! That is why I have been holding off on sex for SO long! I heard it hurts the first time when you are being penetrated by the man Just a heads up, but you can get a doctor to cut you down there if you want to get that part out of the way. Some wo... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Does anyone else desire something other than sex? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 9:00 am
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Replies: 75
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| Yes and no. I have an above average libido, especially for a woman. But I also have a long list of kinks. So 'sex' for me includes a lot of non-vanilla things that other people might not consider erotic. Many of the things on that list I prefer to sex if given the choice. If for some reason I could ... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Rewards For Exercise |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 8:21 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 7,130
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| There are apps out there that gamify walking and turn it into more of a fun competition. I used one called Ingress (?) for a while and had a group with a few people in my neighbourhood competing against a bunch of other people in the area. I've thought about creating my own one in the past, but it's... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have literally zero friends |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 8:07 am
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Replies: 8
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| "Have you had to consciously make yourself "seem" interested in others to form real connections?" I think you are perhaps confusing acquaintances with real friends. The former just happens when you are around people and are generally sociable and willing to exchange ideas with th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 7:42 am
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Replies: 74
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| "From the male perspective, many of us aren't in the top 5% of men who naturally attract women and need to work hard to find a relationship and then work on maintaining it." I would say this is in part due to the fact that women tend to go searching for 'already perfect' (that 5%). Rather ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It feels like there is no one available my age to date |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 6:19 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,115
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| I think 30s are difficult for everyone, as most people hook up earlier on and are busy playing house for a while. Some stay together, many divorce in their 40s+. So the dating market opens up a bit later on. At least it seems that way among the people I meet - lots of them 'panic married' for the wr... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Coworker hardly does any work |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 5:26 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 18,578
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Karma gets everyone in the end! It's why I never bother with revenge. The universe tends to sort itself out in the long run.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you often tell white lies about your life? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2024, 5:23 am
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,754
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| "One lady I used to work with would accuse me of having motives...that I dont have...for lies (I wasnt telling)...about subjects we werent even talking about. Would exhibit all three of those kinds of stupidity in the same one utterance." I had a similar experience a few years back with so... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Autism and living alone |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2024, 6:50 am
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Replies: 11
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| I left home at 15 and moved abroad for a while, so the practicalities of living alone never bothered me. I was 'parentified' as a child, so never felt like I was missing anything when I moved out anyway. However, if I lived alone again I'd want a big dog and/or weapons, as I've had a few 'not fun' e... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Being attractive. |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2024, 6:41 am
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Replies: 6
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| I get what you're saying. I was a nerdy, awkward, tomboy for most of my teens/early 20s, so didn't experience much of this. But I had a few short periods of time between getting my teeth, eyes and skin fixed, learning how to dress and do make up properly from my sister, still having blonde hair and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you often tell white lies about your life? |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2024, 4:26 am
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Replies: 36
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| I tend to downplay the bad stuff a lot, as I don't think people want to hear depressing things about someone they barely know. Unless I'm going through something at the time and I'm worried they might take it personally, then I might explain. But otherwise I say everything is/was fine or brush over ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Greetings! |
| Esme |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2024, 12:36 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,147
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: It's-a-me! Hello! |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2024, 12:32 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 946
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