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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being slim is now out of fashion for a guy? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2017, 9:23 pm
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Replies: 57
Views: 2,071
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| It depends how overweight we are talking. Many women will date overweight men up to a point. Especially if they have at least some muscle underneath it too. I know several women that prefer the men to be taller and/or bigger than them overall due to feeling more 'protected' (think the Hairy Biker gu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can I tell my girlfriend she is fat? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2017, 4:30 pm
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Replies: 568
Views: 7,354
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| I think the main issue is incompatible change (i.e. they looked like A when you met and you were happy with A, then changed to B afterwards and B includes some attribute that is a turn off for you personally). The criteria that come under 'incompatible change' will vary from person to person (weight... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are most men struggling to get healthy weight women? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2017, 1:58 pm
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Replies: 483
Views: 14,102
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| I'm having a similar issue trying to find men to date who aren't at either end of the 'spectrum' (i.e. either overweight OR muscled gym bunnies). I just want a lean, healthy guy who has a similar lifestyle to me. I can't stand junk food or sugar in the house and I like to stay active, so I don't thi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can I tell my girlfriend she is fat? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2017, 8:50 am
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Replies: 568
Views: 7,354
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| This may annoy a lot of people, but I know many (many) women that will get into a relationship with someone they find attractive 'enough' or just 'ok', so they can get a certain lifestyle that they couldn't afford as a single person (car, house, pets, someone to go out to places with, etc). Normally... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is extreme social isolation normal for Aspergers? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2016, 8:44 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 23,887
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| I go through phases where I hyperfocus on something so much that I forget about people (usually work). Then once the project, job, whatever is finished I realise I haven't socialised properly in ages and feel pretty terrible about being a weird loner. So I try to seek out new people by joining group... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Disappointed in women my age :( |
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Posted: 25 May 2016, 11:57 am
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Replies: 108
Views: 4,895
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| 'Travelling companion' to most people means friends with benefits abroad. I want an actual partner, even if they don't want the whole marriage thing (I know marriage is a bit of an unfair deal for men these days, so I don't care so much about a ring and legal document). But I do want the type of rel... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Disappointed in women my age :( |
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Posted: 25 May 2016, 7:53 am
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Replies: 108
Views: 4,895
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| This isn't a problem just for guys. I'm at the 30 mark now and have never found anyone my age on my wavelength. I've never wanted kids. In my 20s I was honest about that when dating and it was usually an issue. The guys who didn't want a family didn't want a girlfriend as they had no reason to settl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Romantic loneliness in men |
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Posted: 09 May 2016, 4:54 pm
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Replies: 183
Views: 8,327
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| "Any loneliness I feel now pales in comparison to how lonely and inadequate I felt with the wrong person." This sums up my feelings perfectly. Since my early teens I was either dating or in long term (5+ years) relationships. I was engaged, I bought a house with one partner, I planned chil... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
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Posted: 05 May 2016, 6:24 am
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Replies: 2,550
Views: 387,344
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| There are a few people I miss. About 5 years ago I finally met someone that ticked every single box for me. I'm pretty sure he was also on the autistic spectrum as he was incredibly easy to understand (which is rare for me). But he already had a long term girlfriend and shared house, so I kept my di... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: No friends and no relationships - totally alone in the world |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2016, 7:47 am
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Replies: 92
Views: 68,104
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| True. If you have to constantly move across the country/world for work then it's difficult to keep in touch with even your family. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What's your type? |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2016, 3:45 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 346
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| I am talking extremes here. I could probably write a book on my 'type' if I was to describe my views in complete detail. But I often feel as though men get the short straw in society these days and I would just want to make life easier for my partner. I wouldn't want a human 'pet' or 'slave' (outsid... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Autistics prefer Autistic partners |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2016, 3:34 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 245
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| I hadn't considered the ipact on having children. I suppose if you want to start a family and want to lessen the probability of your kids inheriting austistic traits then it does make better sense to hook up with an NT partner. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did or do you like robots? |
| Esme |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2016, 3:30 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 4,090
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| I went through a stage of wanting to become one when I was younger. Actually, I still quite like the idea. My brother was really interested in a robotics career and kept threatening to 'experiment' on me. I was perfectly happy with that. I would rather upgrade my body when I hit 60/70 instead of wat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Robots are better than human (or I might be Japanese) |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2016, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,828
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| Ah, Data! My first crush! Data and Dr Who! I wouldn't mind a David 8 robot (from the film Prometheus), but only if I was the owner and not some crazy human. I don't feel any more or less safe around robots than I do humans, so at this point in time I have no preference. NT humans seem to run on very... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: 1.3m Robots By 2018 Coming To Replace Human Workers |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2016, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 56
Views: 1,428
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| True. I think the universal salary idea has been suggested by a few people. It would make sense to do something like this. |
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