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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Might autistic women not be the best match for autistic men? |
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Posted: 30 May 2024, 7:25 am
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Replies: 209
Views: 16,700
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| People can find lovers at any age, but many who are interested in dating would regard missing out on the experience while young as a serious loss. While finding someone in the present is the best possible outcome from here, and having something positive to focus on in the domain of romance may detra... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Might autistic women not be the best match for autistic men? |
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Posted: 29 May 2024, 4:28 am
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Replies: 209
Views: 16,700
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| but yeah, i will always envy and resent people who got to date and have a long-term relationship in their 20s, not everyone gets to be in love very young in life. Envy is fair enough, but resenting the people themselves isn't sensible. Resenting the fact that you missed out on having a long-relatio... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2024, 12:39 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,971
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| She wasn't the one then. Pretty much ~everyone gets rejected, has to deal with/accept/process rejection on their path to eventually clicking with someone. It's similar for other things in life, too.. like applying for 892 jobs before you get hired at one, or having sales conversations with 48 diffe... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
| The Grand Inquisitor |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2024, 10:56 pm
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Replies: 21
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| Of course it didn't work out with the lady as always. I asked her out and she said no. I don't have the stomach for all this BS in dating at this point. What I really need to be happy is for things to just click and me to meet someone who I know is interested where I don't have to be second-guessing... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2024, 3:15 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,971
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| I met someone who I know for a fact was initially interested but then lost interest when I was too awkward too many times. Unbelievable. I could possibly be mistaken about this reading. I think she might still be interested after having spoken to her again. Naturally, I'm going to give this the opp... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,971
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| Thanks @Sweetleaf @Issy @Jakki. I've come to realise that it's possible for women to find me attractive. Unfortunately the realisation took too long and now even when they're interested initially, a brutal combination of autism, severe depression and developmental identity issues sabotage my ability... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late? |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2024, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 823
Views: 78,504
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TwilightPrincess wrote: Notice that I used the word “sometimes.” Sometimes the primary reasons are the same - shyness, atypical social skills, etc.
So we agree |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late? |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2024, 9:20 pm
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Replies: 823
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| Ultimately, no one is obligated to ask anyone out if they don’t want to. If people want a partner, they need to be proactive about it. Of course. Surely you don't think I'm implying that anybody should be obligated to ask anyone else out. I'm not saying that all women need to start asking men out o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late? |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2024, 8:42 pm
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Replies: 823
Views: 78,504
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| Many women, including some on this site, end up alone for a long time too. They are less likely to talk about it openly for various reasons, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. I acknowledge this. People of any gender can end up lonely for a variety of different reasons, and I believe we shou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I try on wedding dresses OR have sex first? |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2024, 8:26 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,849
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| It is true that sex for fun isn't going to get me to my goal HOWEVER having sex with a man who turns out to be my future husband would be a different story That is what I mean Just be wary that there are a lot of men out there who are interested in having sex, but aren't looking for marriage or com... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late? |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2024, 8:11 pm
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Replies: 823
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| Being 27 and in the same situation, I can relate with a lot of your post, excluding the part about resenting women. I understand the void left behind by a barren love life during youth where hormones are running wild and we're discovering our place in the world. I, too, fear that this void will pers... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Determinism |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2024, 6:23 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 479
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| Determinism entails that, in a situation in which a person makes a certain decision or performs a certain action, it is impossible that he or she could have made any other decision or performed any other action. In other words, it is never true that people could have decided or acted otherwise than... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2023, 4:40 am
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Replies: 21
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| Just so you know, finding love is not the end all be all, it is like porn, once you seen it you want something else. This comment is missing the mark with what I'm going through. My grievance isn't even that I haven't found "the one" yet, it's that I've had an intense longing to have a gi... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2023, 3:26 am
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Replies: 21
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| And perhaps someday it all ends.. with a first date, then another, and eventually a relationship. I hope you stick around and carry on doing things that bring you joy while you wait to find out. I hope that happens, but it's hard to believe that it's going to when I'm not even able to put myself ou... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I Don't Think I'll Ever Stop Being Miserable |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2023, 10:17 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,971
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| I feel like a plant that was planted on infertile soil, that has accordingly underdeveloped with time, but is assaulted with a barrage of expectations that it be like the other plants that developed normally. I'm incapacitated by grief and despair. I feel such a burning sense of indignation about wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: The Dating Pool Dropouts by Olivia Reingold |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2023, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 107
Views: 14,109
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| I was just speaking from personal experience because I’ve experienced both. One thing gave me PTSD which makes life difficult and complicated; the other did not. Then I'm imagining your experience with being alone is different to those of us for whom being perpetually alone has caused serious psych... |
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