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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it weird that I have an imaginary wife and daughter? |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2015, 12:28 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 2,917
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| I don't think it's weird. I help myself fall asleep by imagining great love stories for myself and my celebrity crush of the week and I've never felt weird about it. I think that's just what happens when people with a lot of imagination get lonely. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Easier and better to socialize with NTs |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2015, 1:55 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 1,852
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| Compcua: They say autistic people aren't treated well in France--do you find that to be true? Well, I can't speak for the rest of France but in my little village, there are two institutions for autistic people. One is a home where adults with "classic" autism are taken care of. My mother ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would touch flirting make you uncomfortable? |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2015, 12:38 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 3,148
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| I have problems with touch but when it's a guy I like it's different. As long as he doesn't take me by surprise, like come up behind me. I hate hugs but I like cuddling. Personally, when people ask for a hug it makes me more uncomfortable than if they just do it, as long as I see it coming. If he do... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Easier and better to socialize with NTs |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2015, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 1,852
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| I totally agree with you. There was a girl in junior high who looking back, I'm pretty sure was an aspie as well. We hung out a lot because we had the same friends but we were incapable of talking to each other. It was horribly awkward. As for the aspies in my support group, they seem great but none... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Giving up on trying? |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2015, 4:56 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,284
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LordRikerQ wrote: I do definitely want help, especially in the form a support group or a program or something but it seems difficult finding things like that.
Personally, I found my support group through the psychiatrist who diagnosed me. Where do you live ? Maybe we can help you search online. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Giving up on trying? |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2015, 11:20 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,284
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| I've been part of a support group for aspies for over a year now and it's been really nice. Have you ever thought of joining one ? Seems to me like you could benefit from that experience. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I just did the STUPIDEST THING ! |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2015, 5:23 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 3,357
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| So here's an update. I saw "the guy" yesterday, along with a bunch of friends. It went really well. We didn't mention it and he behaved exactly the way he always did, no difference whatsoever. Like nothing happened. At first, I was a bit uncomfortable, I couldn't really look at him. But th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Has anyone had worsening social skills before? |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2015, 5:43 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,814
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| I nearly had a panic attack at the register, and the person there spoke up and asked me if I was alright. Have you ever thought about medication ? I used to have panic attacks everyday. Since I started taking "magic pills" I haven't had a single one and I must say it's really helped with ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bartering for friends |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2015, 5:36 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 524
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| Well, lately I've been doing that as well. I lost my friends after high school ended. We just... drifted apart and lost contact, it happens. About 2-3 months ago, I recontacted them after about 2 years of silence. It's been great and I really don't want to lose them again. So I've been trying really... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergirls, do guys approach you? |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2015, 5:44 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 5,223
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote: Don't you call dating sites "sites de rencontres"?
Yes, but no one would call a date a "rencontre". |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergirls, do guys approach you? |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2015, 4:28 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 5,223
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| I think generally men tend to approach women more then vise versa. I also think that infuriates a lot off men on here because they take that as "ohh they got it so easy". What they don't realize is how hard going on dates can be. It's the most daunting social task there is, and it takes a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergirls, do guys approach you? |
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Posted: 22 Aug 2015, 5:38 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 5,223
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| To those who do get approached, do you find it bothersome or flattering? Or both? Definitely bothersome because I tend not to understand it at first. I think it's just friendly and I end up flirting back without realizing it. Then I'm shocked when the guy does or says something which for me is &quo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergirls, do guys approach you? |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2015, 5:40 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 5,223
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Guys do approach me from time to time. It happened twice in the last month. And I'm not a "hot girl". Some people find me pretty but most of them find me average looking.
One of the guys who hit on me told me he thought he had a shot because I was smiling a lot. So maybe that's the secret. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Talking About Your Problems With Friends |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2015, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 851
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| In my experience, it's all about finding the right moment. I've noticed that when I feel the need to talk about something that upsets me, and I find the right moment to do so, people actually seem to enjoy hearing about my problems because they like to give advice and act like a shrink. Just don't g... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I just did the STUPIDEST THING ! |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2015, 6:40 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 3,357
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| "Mon amie" is fine. "Je t'aime" is not like "I love you". You can't say it casually like "bye, love you". Maybe it's different in other parts of France, but in the South, people in general seem really shy about saying it. We say "Je t'aime bien" (I l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I just did the STUPIDEST THING ! |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2015, 5:49 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 3,357
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| have you tried talking non social guys? you may find some you like and could even love I just always get along better with people who are comfortable enough with social interactions for the both of us. That goes for friendships as well. It's just... easier. And the easier it is, the more I'm able t... |
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