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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Dealing with a possibly toxic friend (rant) |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2018, 9:52 pm
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Replies: 0
Views: 375
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| My one friend has been nice and pleasant, but I have a history of befriending individuals who decide to show toxic behaviors around me. All of my friends have been NT so far. So this one friend, I'll call her Chris, has become friend (loosely using this term) and like other "friends" I hav... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The problem of SJWs |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2018, 2:01 pm
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Replies: 1,722
Views: 62,515
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| SJW's have tunnel vision, in the sense that they blatantly disregard types of privilege. They don't realize that when a cop shows up and demands an unarmed autistic individual to move in a specific manner, and when the individual is unable to comply due to having a meltdown or executive functioning ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you think most people are annoying? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2018, 2:06 am
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Replies: 110
Views: 3,398
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Yes, and I am reminded of their annoyance daily. I have SO many pet peeves, and people can just be obnoxious in general. I hate when (mostly females) talk using 'vocal fry' or smack their lips in between sentences.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tattoos are so f***ing ugly |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2018, 12:18 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 5,229
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| I don't like them either, and I have never been compatible with anyone who has tattoos (even one). The same goes for body piercings. Their views and demeanor's always turn out to be quite different from my own. Whether it be to look 'trendy' or simply because it is a hobby, I don't get along with pe... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Any Aspie Psychology Majors? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2017, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,827
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| I major in psych and will be graduating with my BA in 2018, but I unfortunately don't know where to go with it. Was thinking of getting into psychotherapy, but I don't know. Social interaction can be extremely fatiguing to me, and counselling in any form might be out of my range of occupational abil... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Why does it seem like someone always has a hidden motive? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2017, 8:45 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 438
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| I have come to a similar conclusion. Some people will only make simple and logical conversations at first, but then gradually get into more subtle and dark passive-aggressive "slip-ups" here and there to see what they can get away with in interacting with you. For instance, someone might b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is there any dating sites worth my patients? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2017, 7:58 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,596
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| I used several sites in the past. Never ended up meeting anyone in person. From my own experience, and after hearing the experience of others (males and females) who used the same sites, there are 3 common types that you will most likely get matched with: Damaged Goods (won't stop obsessing over the... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How to remember I’m not good enough to talk to people |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2017, 11:40 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 707
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| People on the spectrum don't usually realize when they start to 'ramble' - myself included. It took a long time to become cognitively aware of this, and even now I still catch myself awkwardly going on about certain topics to people. It can be hard to monitor, especially when it's a special interest... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I Don't Get Along with Women My Age |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2017, 11:29 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,410
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| This has pretty much always been the case. I used to get along mainly with kids younger than me. I'm not saying "my best friends are guys" because that would be a lie, as I don't have any guy friends. Now, at age 23, I find women my age to be hard to befriend. It seems that even when I thi... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Psychology Graduate with Autism? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2017, 11:05 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 519
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| So I am in the final year of my Psychology BA program. I knew right away that I did not want to become a psychiatrist; even now, I can't see myself becoming a fully-licensed psychologist. There are, of course, other options which I have considered - but they all involve skilled socialization one-on-... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The worst thing a bully has done to you |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2017, 1:15 pm
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Replies: 433
Views: 68,312
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| I remember being in second grade and having a stalker fifth grade girl who bullied me constantly. We had something called "reading buddies" and the fifth graders got to choose which second grader they would pair up with. She chose me. Instead of reading to me in the hallway, she would bull... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: 80% of aspies fail out/unemployed after 4+years of college |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2017, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 145
Views: 25,740
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| This does not surprise me at all. My uni has ZERO disability scholarship opportunities or clubs. The general bursary did not ask about disability, but instead asked pretty much exclusively about minority status or financial need. At this point I have had to re-take take three courses in the past due... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: scale of -10 to +10, how do you feel right now? |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2017, 3:07 am
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Replies: 35,860
Views: 2,035,892
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| -7 feeing like I'm unlovable and worthless You're not worthless. But I am in societies view which most women follow without question. I'm in ssi and can only manage 20 hours a week for work. So I live off around 700-900 a month. I can't afford to fix, buy or insure a car. So I'm jobless(in women's ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Lonely by myself but unreal around others |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2017, 6:45 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 8,644
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| Yeah, I find that I am not myself around others as well. This feeling increases when I am with more than one other person... the more people I am around, the less I feel like myself (with the exclusion of my family members). There have only been perhaps two people that I could be myself around - my ... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Upcoming Netflix series "Atypical" - Teen Dating |
| Cardia |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2017, 6:40 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 5,590
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| Yet another series with a male Aspie protagonist... Sigh. I seriously wish that the stigma around young women having Asperger's would be broken. I know that there is at least one movie out there with a female Aspie protagonist, but I remember seeing the trailer for it and thinking to myself that she... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does anyone know what a group home is like? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2017, 6:29 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,300
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I feel like a visual representation of a group home will give you an idea. Here is a documentary about a group home for people with Prader-Willi Syndrome. It is likely somewhat similar to a group home for individuals on the spectrum.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKCL2O0NfXg |
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