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Forum: The Haven Topic: Handling Interruptions |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 09 May 2016, 8:59 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 387
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| Yes, that makes sense. The problem is my tone of voice. I'm not great at hiding that first moment of annoyance. I have to really remember to let it go in that moment. I'm trying to think positively, even in that moment of irritation, so that the feeling will pass as quickly as possible. Yea, I don'... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Handling Interruptions |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 08 May 2016, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 387
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| Oh, I get very annoyed when people disrupt my flow. I am nasty when people interrupt me, sometimes people get upset with me. It will always be annoying, but I try to be more patience, though when there is too much sensory stimulus around me, that is rather impossible, so I try to explain that. Now I... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The struggle for a social life |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 08 May 2016, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 790
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| You just wrote my experience back in high school. You know what, as I look back now, in high school and uni, those that actually took the time to know me better, who actually seemed to care, and treated me like I was worth something, were a little older than me, a little wiser, or a little more matu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Imagining what to say |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 08 May 2016, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,518
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| Doesn't everyone do that? I think a lot in pictures, so I need to write things down so I remember what to say in a phone call or when meeting the person. I also tend to try and talk to my wife to see if I can get into words what I want to say. Conversations doesn't always go as I expect it, and it k... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Non-Binary? |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 08 May 2016, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 44
Views: 4,131
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| I am humbled by how little of this discussion I understand. :oops: I have had several friends in the LGBTQ community, but we didn't discuss this topic thoroughly(which I now regret). Can someone direct me to a "primer" on this topic as I would like to understand your community better? Man... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I figured out what NT's mean by "smiling" |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 07 May 2016, 10:42 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,329
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| Oh that makes sense! I always got that comment too because it seems like I look angry all the time. So I started to be more reflective about my face muscles, as to not look so angry. Now I get comments that I have such positive energy! It got so far that when people do presentations or are talking i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Reflection on hanging out with other Autistic people |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 06 May 2016, 3:38 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 628
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| If he comes to meeting again apologize while the group is there and explain why. If it was not an Autism meetup I would just apologize without the explanation but I think in that setting it is appropriate. Should I apologize even when I said nothing? I should maybe explain that these thoughts that ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Had a diagnostic assessment - told I don't have it |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 06 May 2016, 2:42 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 2,444
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| I recently talked to my psychologist, who I am seeing because of a burnout, about the possibility of having ASD. We talked the whole session about why I consider it a possibility. She explained to be that diagnosis is always based on symptoms and how it was growing up, and after the diagnosis, nothi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Reflection on hanging out with other Autistic people |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 05 May 2016, 6:43 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 628
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| All my life I have been labelled as different, forced to fit in, having to behave in a certain way, unaware that I was in the Autistic Spectrum. It made me quite self-conscious, anxious in social situations, punishing myself physically and mentally for not "getting it". I have been called ... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Non-Binary? |
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Posted: 05 May 2016, 5:12 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 4,131
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| I am humbled by how little of this discussion I understand. :oops: I have had several friends in the LGBTQ community, but we didn't discuss this topic thoroughly(which I now regret). Can someone direct me to a "primer" on this topic as I would like to understand your community better? Man... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: are we different? |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2016, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,055
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| Yea. My wife sometimes looks at me in awe and says "I never met anyone like you and thinks like you". It kind of gives you a confidence boost, because I was always criticised for things I do and say, which apparently are not socially acceptable in certain contexts (though I never seem to u... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Any of you Worry about being alone! |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 2:05 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,085
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| I worry about being alone. I think that was a reason why I married so early - I fell in love at 19 and sticked with this person. All my friends were living their bachelor life, and I was already enjoying the "happily every after". But I do not know HOW I would ever live alone if anything w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What are your social scripts? |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 1:55 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,309
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| I have a few "automatic" responses to social interaction. One is if someone tells me about something I don't really understand I say "ah, ok!" In a nice interested-sounding voice. Yes! "Ah cool" "Nice nice" "Sweet" "Awesome!" Especially wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What are your social scripts? |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,309
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| I used to be the kind of person that would answer ALL the questions (I am so very much out of the closet, I never lived in one, I don't understand why that concept exists in the first place): "when did you find out?" "how did that go?" "do your parents know?" "what... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I tell my [aspie] father? |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2016, 12:50 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 513
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| The past couple of weeks have been rather intense. With a random discovery about ASD, all my life makes sense, random past memories and situations come up with explanation. My wife finally understands that my behaviours are genuine, when she often thought I didn't love her, I was interested in other... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Neurology, evolution and autism |
| Dulin |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2016, 2:07 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,424
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| Oh wow, that IS interesting, thank you for the tip! |
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