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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Into the 'Mode |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2024, 3:37 am
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Replies: 8
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Into the 'Mode |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 10:17 pm
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Replies: 8
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I miss what dating used to be like |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,918
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The places you went to are for promiscuous people. If you want anything loyal or lasting you won't find that in a bar or a club.
Yeah, #metoo is quite a drag. Even I got the molester/rapist label once. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Therapy styles that work for autistic adults |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 22
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| DBT sounds a lot like what the therapist will do to my bank account. I'd rather just help my parents buy their beach house for retirement, and just f**k my life... If you have trust issues you can work a self help book: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Directed-DBT-Skills-Workbook-Dialectical/dp/0593435... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 3:25 am
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Replies: 18
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IsabellaLinton wrote: Watch Erin Brockovich.
I like that one.
I've seen it. It's a real story about poisoned water supply somewhere... I remember that much.
I hadn't seen a Julia Roberts film in over a decade. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 3:15 am
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Replies: 18
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| You need to watch more chick flicks, RB. :twisted: I think I've seen all the ones Nora Ephron made. (That includes When Harry Met Sally, of which you included a clip, it's definitely a favorite.) With a worthy chick, I'll watch the flick. That's commitment. Tonight if I do end up watching anything ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What’s on your mind? The Haven version. |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:54 am
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Replies: 69
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| So I got called out by my son for something that I'm pretty sure I deserved to be called out on, but maybe it was gaslighting. I'm not sure. It was probably warranted but it still hurt. Then I told my partner and he said my son was right. Now I know it's real and I'm ashamed of myself for being suc... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What’s on your mind? The Haven version. |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:52 am
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| So I got called out by my son for something that I'm pretty sure I deserved to be called out on, but maybe it was gaslighting. I'm not sure. It was probably warranted but it still hurt. Then I told my partner and he said my son was right. Now I know it's real and I'm ashamed of myself for being suc... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:47 am
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Replies: 18
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IsabellaLinton wrote: I don't think cushioning is necessarily romantic.
Sometimes it's friendship.
It can even be same sex.
That doesn't fall under the definition in the OP article. Platonic friendships are not cushioning.
Now, people do lie about the exact nature of their friendshipsrelationships. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:41 am
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| I don't consider cushioning cheating. They're two different things. This, from a woman who took a year-long couples' course on infidelity. Infidelity is the correct word. As my therapist defined, infidelity is an act that breaches the trust of a partner. Carrying on outside romantic relationships o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:26 am
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IsabellaLinton wrote: That's why historically, men didn't want their wives to work outside the home.
Now, are you implying that women will cheat given an opportunity? (No need to get offended, that's only humor.)
But I have to say, thanks to the Internet in the home maybe a job is the better way after all.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:22 am
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IsabellaLinton wrote: Most people I knew met their cushions at work.
It's kinda hard to meet people otherwise.
If they meet their cushions at work then they aren't working. Cushions should be found at home when you rest.  
Yeah, that's the point. And sadly that's not always true. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 1:44 am
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| I don't think "cushioning" is always intentional like that. People gravitate to relationships / people who make them feel good about themselves. That's as far as some folks can think. Most people I know who cushioned had no idea it could become problematic. Some many people feel bad for m... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Therapy styles that work for autistic adults |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 1:32 am
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Replies: 22
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DBT sounds a lot like what the therapist will do to my bank account.
I'd rather just help my parents buy their beach house for retirement, and just f**k my life... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Got anything random to say? L&D Version. |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 6:04 pm
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Replies: 432
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Quote: Got Anything Random To Say? L&D Version.
I never told mom the ring arrived in the mail because I know what she will ask. She will ask what the letter said, but there was no letter inside, and that was far more devastating than the ring itself. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: New term: cushioning |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 5:02 pm
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Replies: 18
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DuckHairback wrote: I think we've got enough words for things now.
I wish some things didn't exist so they wouldn't require words to name them. |
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