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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need ideas |
| Koldune |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2015, 8:37 pm
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| She used to make disagreements into catastrophes. She doesn't do that very much any more, as I said, since she had an overactive thyroid removed. I'm periodically surprised, though, when my efforts to make amends don't seem to bear fruit. For me, if you remove the cause of a disagreement (i.e., apol... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need ideas |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2015, 6:26 pm
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| My wife and I have been married for twelve years, and from her point of view, we have a problem. (I'm aspie, she's NT.) She has asked me to ask on this forum whether anyone has any ideas about how to put more romance back into our relationship. I'm not awfully demonstrative in that area, mostly beca... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Calling All Senior Aspies!! |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2015, 5:01 pm
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Replies: 33
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| Raised by a father who seemed to believe that any learning disabilities could be beaten out of a child, and that children could be shamed into being less socially awkward. Observation: Pastors and preachers would rather side with the bullies in their congregation than admit that even one of their c... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Calling All Senior Aspies!! |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2015, 9:59 pm
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| [I see you've met my father ... those were pretty much his stated philosophies. More likely a few of the same kind of psychological clone. "Common sense" was one of their favorite buzzwords, meaning following their same patterns of thought, reaching their same conclusions, and ridiculing ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Calling All Senior Aspies!! |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2015, 2:41 pm
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| ... and that children could be shamed into being less socially awkward. I think the military has more or less the same mindset. First off, in my experience, they think that anyone can be trained as an effective manager, given time, and that anyone having trouble learning to be one is probably being... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Calling All Senior Aspies!! |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2015, 11:27 pm
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| Same here. Born in 1956, diagnosed in 2005. Struggled through 20 years in the military before the diagnosis even existed in the U.S. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone remember Sophie Borris, AKA Starbuline, late of WP? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2014, 11:36 pm
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| If I remember, she was interested in all things Russian and had actually taught herself to speak it? So I heard, although I've no idea how successful she was with it. I remember once, though, when she said she was thinking of hurting herself, telling her that I thought having taught oneself a forei... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Frustration over being unable to commit suicide. |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2011, 3:56 pm
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Replies: 16
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| I get it. A family friend succeeded in his suicide attempt before Christmas. My immediate reaction was jealousy that he had the guts to go through with it and I don't (because of hurting my family). It's actually still my reaction when I think about his suicide, although I don't currently feel like... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Frustration over being unable to commit suicide. |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2011, 12:42 pm
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| Overdramtic rant below. I've disliked myself since I was 9, and I've hated myself since I was 11. Since then, of course I've thought about suicide, but I know I can't do it. It would hurt my family too much. My little sisters are too young, they cannot deal with it. They have potential in life, and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What does "It's what they're not saying" mean? |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2011, 8:05 am
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Replies: 49
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| Does the statement mean there's something I should have said? Is there an obligation I wasn't aware of? No, the statement is as is, however the meaning is not. You need only to mentally fill in the missing meaning, the hidden meaning “of what has not been said”; to make sense of what has been said,... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Funny misreads. |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2010, 11:43 am
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| I tend to misread a "Catholic Charities" sign near my home as "Catholic Charlies." Then there's bad juxaposition in signs that aren't supposed to be related: "We have diesel" (meaning that they sell diesel truck fuel) directly underneath a sign advertising "hot Cajun shrimp." "Help the mentally hand... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: The Military |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2010, 7:23 am
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I'm not up to date on some of the acronyms you've used. Are these correct?
MCRD = Marine Corps Recruit Depot
ELS = Entry-Level Separation
SOI = School of Infantry
MOS = Military Occupation Skill |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: The Military |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2010, 12:33 pm
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| I retired from the Air Force after 20 years fifteen years ago. Given the chance to do those years over again, except for the travel, I would do something else. i hope retired [military] life is agreeing with you. IMHO retired is the best way to be. when you say you'd want to do something else, does... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: The Military |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2010, 1:49 pm
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| I retired from the Air Force after 20 years fifteen years ago. I joke about having survived the last six or seven years of it, rather than having served it. Asperger's wasn't well known back then, but I don't think that would have made a difference. Back then, I'd say the Air Force thought that if y... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: who here is an AS male married to an NT female |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2010, 12:43 pm
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Replies: 29
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| I am also married to an NT woman with bipolar. We've been together for 9 years and married for 5. I would say I'm the one who is far more "together" in terms of employment, taking care of finances, household tasks and the like. She is extraordinarily spontaneous and emotional and has difficulty to ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: who here is an AS male married to an NT female |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2010, 5:02 pm
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Replies: 29
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| My wife and I currently maintain separate households, not at all because we don't like each other, but because it works better. (I'm an apsie; she's NT with bipolar disorder. We've been married for six years. I'm nearly ten years older than she is, and we have a five-year-old daughter.) We've found ... |
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