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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do people do this? |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2022, 3:34 am
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| For example this one bloke at the pub who is part of my social group For a second I was gonna say, like if it was just a random stranger it might be a different matter. To answer the question, I don't know really some people don't think before they talk or they think it's just banter/something to t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who ask you "and?" when you are talking... |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2022, 1:21 pm
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| My sister does this constantly, and she includes a nice hand gesture with it, moving it around in a circle. It makes me feel incredibly stupid, and beyond that, when I do get to the point, she acts like it's the dumbest thing that she has ever heard. The rest of the family thinks I am the problem w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who ask you "and?" when you are talking... |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2022, 1:11 pm
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| It's not a very nice thing to do actually. Of course, it's condescending My thoughts exactly. I did go on a bit in the OP, it wasn't meant to sound hateful but I wanted pepes who related, and a chance to share experiences on this forum, and/or vent on behalf of said person. The next most related to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who ask you "and?" when you are talking... |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2022, 3:26 am
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| Hi all, this is probably some pop-culture (it's the in thing atm isn't it) pdd-nos thing, as I recall reading one of the critera was "will continue the convo if structure is present" I am guessing a few nons know this and I am probably some easy target for the wind up merchant in them. Hav... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I Am Not Like Most People. |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 11:07 am
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kraftiekortie wrote: Most of us here.....are "not like "most people." That's why we're here 
Individuals are what we are aye. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 10:52 am
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Replies: 20
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| Is it narc or BPD, with backgrounds of abuse or trauma? My signature, I suspect the disorder I have if anything is something akin to AvPD, mild borderline traits, with narc defenses on top (which are in turn partially accepted but unconsciously suppressed in the self as well). It isn't abuse or tra... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 3:47 pm
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| Kids used to wind me up a lot when I was a kid, but back then I didn't know how to take a joke, so when I reacted by crying or walking off or whatever it just made their harmless teasing turn to unkind bullying. I think if I had of taken a joke I probably would have had more friends. Like when kids... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 11:17 am
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| ^ I hear ya. Like the post was about being 'targeted' by others a lot, possibly as a way to control or shame me, hard to beleive as you say, hard to describe but we are on the same page here I think. As if said person (myself, the "I in me") was prone to feeling shame, or had insecurities,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 9:58 am
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| This is normal social ritual as long as its' not crossing a line. Teasing is normal. The difference is the response to being told "hey, that hurts my feelings". If their intent was to just do playful social bonding, they'll apologize and clarify their intent. If their intent was to hurt y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 9:49 am
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Fnord wrote: hellhole wrote: People who try to wind you up... does this happen often? Yes; and mostly right here on WrongPlanet.
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 9:48 am
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| Only at elementary Andy early high school. The rest is likely self inflicted from ego. Or an unspoken and agreed upon sessions with my SPED teacher. Yes, it's voluntary because I deemed it to be an instrument for my own emotional development. And there are no agreed upon structures and let her. Thi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 11 Nov 2021, 9:44 am
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| This is normal social ritual as long as its' not crossing a line. Teasing is normal. I know about teasing and all that, like in school this girl who liked me, who I vaguely dated (not the one mentioned) would like mess up my hair to mildly embarrass me, giggle around me, brush up besides me, etc. a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People who try to wind you up... |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2021, 8:01 pm
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| ... or use your emotional vulerablity against you, or try to upset you in some way, how do you deal with this minus avoiding the person which is my usual strategy (although it isn't always possible)? It isn't a case of who does this to you, it's a case of who [i]doesn't[i] do this to me? I am gettin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need info on prevalence of "traits without disorder" |
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Posted: 09 May 2020, 5:31 pm
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| Aka. sub-clinical autism. A quick look on wikipedia suggests 25% of those with symptoms of pdd-nos "more closely resemble those of autistic disorder, but do not fully meet all its diagnostic signs and symptoms. This is because either the symptoms were recognized at a later age or because they w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A fear of my mild case getting worse, self-absorption |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2020, 8:58 pm
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| This is aimed at adults with pdd-nos, you know people with traits of it, for instance acting aloof when uncomfortable or spending more time in your own head than in the company of others. I have these moments, which I don't really consider a problem where I will lose interest in others and drift awa... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My life is a joke |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2020, 2:42 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Is there something constructive you are interested in, that you could focus on during this shutdown? A hobby, a book you've been meaning to read but just couldn't seem to get around to? I know it may seem trivial, but it can help to set short-term, attainable goals during a time of uncertainty. Yes... |
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