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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it common for aspie to often not fit in? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2023, 7:34 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 212
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| It's one of our defining characteristics. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Seeing young women around is so painful... |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2023, 1:52 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 1,101
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| Deal with your other issues as best you can if you want to make yourself more attractive. If you're undiagnosed, get diagnosed. Medication can do a lot for ADHD . There are many beautiful women over 40. Why not consider them? Some younger women are attracted to or open to dating older men. My partne... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Sexless long-term relationships |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2023, 9:32 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 2,041
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| If I had stayed with my last partner, I would have ended up in such a relationship. I can't be in a sexless relationship. I think this is also age dependent. If your < 50 then of course sex is a big factor in any relationship. But for older people it's really not as big a deal. People don't talk ab... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My Tinder Regional Experiment - 6 countries, 6 days. |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2023, 10:01 am
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Replies: 170
Views: 18,706
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| I'm hopeless at initiating, so Morocco would be great, if I were single. I've spent time in Arab countries, but very different ones. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being round strangers |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2023, 9:56 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 370
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| Find an empty room with a cat. Of course these 2 things are not always available. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you prefer the company of other autistic people? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2023, 7:46 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 799
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| I tend to prefer the company of odd, quirky eccentric people, autistic or not. I also prefer introverts. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: my sons 18th birthday |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 10 Mar 2023, 10:27 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 173
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| Odd. Most 18-year-olds would be trying to get away from their parents. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2023, 7:13 pm
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Replies: 231
Views: 7,148
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| There's a big difference between lowering your standards and broadening your standards. Most very young people (and some older ones) have very narrow standards uncritically accepted from the media and peers. My own standards are high, but they're much broader than when I was 20. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2023, 9:28 am
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Replies: 231
Views: 7,148
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| ya, men are the only gender that have to get social akwwardness or social ineptness overcome, handled, if they want to have a dating life or have love in their life I'm not sure that's true. I've seen women who were too awkward to successfully pursue partners or maintain interest from people who ha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dad Bods |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 8:07 am
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Replies: 219
Views: 2,764
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nick007 wrote: I have a dad bod & my gf likes that. She doesn't find lots of mussels attractive & she also finds very skinny people less attractive. She's very overweight so that could be a factor.
I'm allergic to mussels myself. Also oysters, clams and scallops. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Not wanting to date people in your own league! |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2023, 12:02 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 2,227
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| The concept of "leagues" in relationships is over-simplistic to the point of stupidity. No person is defined by just one factor, and no one factor is responsible for attraction. No doubt the OP, seeing a photo of me with my partner, would consider her far out of my "league". Fort... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is having an obsession (or obsessions) problematic? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2023, 10:25 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,689
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| You can't be brilliant at something without being obsessed. There's nothing wrong with that. But that doesn't mean you need to talk to other people about it nonstop. That's just annoying. It's a lesson I'm trying to teach my AS son. But he doesn't listen--he's too busy monologuing. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do a lot of women don’t want anything to do with us? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 6:28 pm
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Replies: 124
Views: 3,529
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kraftiekortie wrote: FWB sucks all around…..
Not making a moral judgement. Just saying how I personally feel about it.
It can work, but the two people and their expectations need to be very well balanced. In my experience, it more often ends with one person unhappily wanting more than the other. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Becoming a geriatric How did it make you feel? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 7:52 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,272
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| I don't worry about dementia as much as I worry about being perceived as having dementia for the autistic traits I've had my whole life. When you're 25 people think "weird," but when you're 70 they think "dementia." |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Is there such a thing as an Aspie fetish? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 7:45 am
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Replies: 76
Views: 711
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Caz72 wrote: my ex husband was attracted to my autism behaviours in a way where he would deliberately egg me on so that he could watch me have a meltdown
then he said he didnt like me because of my meltdowns
what
That's terrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
It partially reminds my of my ex. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do a lot of women don’t want anything to do with us? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2023, 10:30 am
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Replies: 124
Views: 3,529
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| If a woman doesn't want anything to do with you, why do you want anything to do with her? Don't waste time on people who wouldn't be good or right for you anyway. |
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