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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How did you meet your partner(s)? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 13 May 2024, 2:54 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 2,534
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WantToHaveALife wrote: im sure 9 times out of 10, these relationships were initiated by the man.
Every relationship I've had was initiated by the other (female) person. I don't initiate well. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Public transportation |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 11 May 2024, 12:34 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 836
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| Driving is stressful for me, so I prefer living in a city with good public transportation. In addition to its ithet problems, the NYC subway used to be a sensory overload nightmare for me. I'm now in a city with a clean, efficient, dependable train system, and people are mostly well behaved. I still... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Skills |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 09 May 2024, 12:53 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 568
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| Driving 4 I can do it, but I don't enjoy it. I'm glad I now live in a city where it's not necessary. Cooking 7 Better than most, when I have the energy. Reading 10 I'm completely literate and enjoy it. Writing 9 It's one of my jobs. But there's always room for improvement. Eating 6 I eat reasonably ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you get over cutting people off? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 03 May 2024, 10:39 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 767
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| Don't attach too much importance to yourself. They can easily find new friends / victims. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you deal with being silenced when you are right? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 01 May 2024, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,205
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| I once considered a job at a very good university in China. My ex told me, "Don't do it. People disappear there, and you can't keep your mouth shut when you're right." |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What if the Internet had been available to us as children? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2024, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 24,361
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| The amount of information available would have been wonderful, and might have significantly improved my life. My teenage son has been researching universities and working holiday programs in Europe. Growing up in a small town in a pretty backward area, I had no idea that these options even existed. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: For older folks, do you still feel young for your age? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2024, 12:31 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 2,657
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Velorum wrote: People of my own age seem very old and I dont seem to have much in common with them.
This is very true for me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: For older folks, do you still feel young for your age? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2024, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 2,657
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| Mentally, I've never fit in at any age. I'm definitely not as "mature" as other people my age, but thats always been true. (I still dont feel like an adult.) Physically, I'm told I look about 10 years younger, but that's always been true as well. Lately, do worry a bit about what would hap... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How did you meet your partner(s)? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2024, 10:49 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 2,534
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| At random, by chance. We started talking (she, of course, initiated), and discovered that we had a lot in common. Almost 5 years ago. I'm still amazed at my good fortune. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do you know when you have found "The One"?! |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2024, 2:47 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,424
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| I don't believe in the existence of "the one" perfect partner. That said, the relationship I'm in now is by far the best I've ever had, so I do believe in "the best." |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Reasons women do not date us! |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2024, 2:44 am
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Replies: 900
Views: 18,728
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Jamesy wrote: They were saying last night at the pub I should get a thai bride or date a black girl.
So, your pub associates are not only insulting to you but also racist? I'd definitely find a new pub/peer group. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think autistic people constantly need reminders? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 11:20 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,587
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| I do. It's often very frustrating. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and lying |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 11:19 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 7,601
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| I almost never lie, for 2 reasons. First, I'm honest and direct by nature. I say what i think, ir say nothing. Lying usually just doesn't occur to me. Second, lying is difficult for me. I'm just nit good ar it. If I lied in the way many NTs do, I'd get my lies mixed up and very quickly get caught. I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My Relationship |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2024, 3:40 am
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Replies: 9
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| That sounds exciting. My son was very excited to go to Belgium and meet his online girlfriend (his first) a couple of months ago. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My mom doesn't get it! |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2024, 3:33 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 4,597
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| My son and I are both AS, and we often annoy each other. Fortunately, he now has a long-distance girlfriend to monologue to. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should we inform our romantic interests of our condition? |
| Benjamin the Donkey |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2024, 1:18 pm
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Replies: 58
Views: 7,274
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I definitely come across as eccentric, but probably not diagnosable by a nonprofessional. So I'd wait a while, till I was sure she liked me for my weird self, before explicitly telling her.
I told my girlfriend after about a month, when it was very clear that she was really into me. |
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