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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what does very high functioning mean to you? |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 6:07 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 2,491
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| I consider myself high-functioning as I wasn't diagnosed until much later in life. I think it's just a functional label used to flag whether or not someone needs special accommodations and support in school or work. The issue I have with being "high functioning" is when it crosses over fro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Imagining why you felt different as a kid |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2017, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 2,281
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| I had a few theories. Possibly, I grew up poor, missing out on a lot of "proper" socialization. The other theory I turned to when I was much younger and more in need of solace. I believed the world so big that, logically, I only need find my double and then we could finally be friends. Ha!... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Communication autistic to autistic |
| petalstatic |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2017, 12:52 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,215
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| You sound like an artist, petalstatic. I'm not one, but thanks. That talking on the phone is like sitting on a stool with two legs metaphor really worked for me, petaltasic. Except that someone like me would ask if the stool originally had three or four legs. Because it would still fail to be a sto... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Communication autistic to autistic |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2017, 10:55 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,215
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| I think I can relate. I live and die by my idiosyncratic metaphors and far out analogies. I think being autistic, to compensate for a deficiency in the natural ability to understand things, you can instead develop a system of understanding based on a framework of comparing like-things and recognizin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NTs finding us objectionable? |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2017, 11:02 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,541
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| We might also come off as rude and terribly inconsiderate. People find that behaviour objectionable. When confronted, we want explanations which just seems argumentative and stubborn. Without proper explanation, aspies continue in their behaviour without picking up on cues that people are annoyed an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I Can't Just Be Normal |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2017, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 696
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| I can relate to this, with some people, I form an excessively strong attachment. It almost becomes an obsession with them, and being turned down by them at that point can be pretty damaging. Frequently I'll get the wrong impression that I can trust them with very personal things, but in the end I g... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Fever Affect in Adults in the spectrum |
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Posted: 11 Sep 2017, 10:28 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,097
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| I think it's like a physical and psychological narrowing of focus that creates an experience of calm and clarity. When you are ill enough to run a fever, you're actually engaged in a battle and your body becomes a war zone. The only objective is to win, to survive, and get better. When there is only... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My therapist gave me dangerous advice about dating. Why? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2017, 6:11 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,028
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| A more practical example, you can be making out with someone, things are getting heated, both parties are into it. But at a certain point one member of the party says they want to stop. Immediately stop. They could have said yes at the beginning, they could have been completely enthusiastic up unti... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My therapist gave me dangerous advice about dating. Why? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2017, 9:26 pm
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Replies: 21
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| At one point, she decides to tell me: "'Yes' and 'no' aren't black and white. A girl will answer you by how she feels at the moment. She could say 'no' one time, but she could say 'yes' another time." I think this is true of people in general, but more often leads to dangerous situations ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Big sporting events, concerts, gigs, |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2017, 9:46 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,264
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| I go to concerts and large events like street festivals and hockey games all the time, they don't bother me much. As long as the music isn't something obnoxious to me like pan flutes or avant-garde jazz, I'm fine, otherwise I develop a migraine and get nauseous. I think in those situations, as long ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Other people are put off by your intensity" - what?! |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2017, 6:42 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 1,404
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| Some other ways of being too intense: - Being too expressive, gesticulating a lot - Providing way too much information at once (think of it like a firefighter's water hose of data directed in to someone's face, not pleasant). - Interrupting - Talking about intense topics (any politics, religion, per... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Rosie Project |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2017, 10:02 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 13,669
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| I couldn't make it past the first chapter, I thought it was terribly written. The main character seems like an awful parody of someone with Asperger's played for laughs. But if you're into that sort of thing like big bang theory, you might find it entertaining. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Please help I need advice |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2017, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 1,384
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| At the end of the day, I am not worried if he is either, I just want to be treated with respect. I can put up with a lot of things but having other women in our relationship is a deal breaker. Look, you've gone to counselling to try and salvage the relationship, but he's not doing his part. Aspie o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not Being Married Or Involved............. |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2017, 11:13 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 849
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| It's worse as a woman, can tell you that much. If you're a guy, you can just be the uncle that never settled down or whatever. How people will judge you depends on the rest of your circumstances. If you're employed, own a home, and don't act too creepy, no one will think that poorly. If you're a wom... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Time travel what would you do. |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2017, 12:09 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,706
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| It depends on what kind of time travel we're talking about here. If it's just your consciousness and you can't return to your original timestream, then I'd probably be kicking myself for not memorizing lotto numbers. And trying my toddler best to invest in apple stocks etc. Then I'd get bored and de... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do female Aspies prefer male company over female? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2017, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 11,533
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| It depends on the person. Sometimes I get into dick measuring contests with guys for some reason if we share a special interest, I don't know if it's because I'm being preemptively defensive about my knowledge of said interest or if most guys I've met are just arrogant or condescending towards women... |
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