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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:17 pm
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| I don't even know what is going on with mine. He won't say anything, not even that he feels smothered. I am starting to understand, barely. The sensory overload thing that Kraftie mentioned makes a lot of sense though. I find it so sad though. I am wondering if it is possible, then, for an aspie to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:16 pm
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| Interesting. For me, the more intense, the better it feels. I think this is because the more intense the feelings, the closer you feel to the person, and the closer you feel, the more security you have in knowing someone is there for you, cares for you, and will never let you down. Me? or all NTs? d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:06 pm
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| Also, Kraftie, it makes sense what you said about sensory overload. It is still hard to grasp how that actually feels, though, since for NTs, having someone be "into you" is flattering, and even special if you are also into that person. And if they prefer so much isolation, is it fair to s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:00 pm
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| I don't even know what is going on with mine. He won't say anything, not even that he feels smothered. I am starting to understand, barely. The sensory overload thing that Kraftie mentioned makes a lot of sense though. I find it so sad though. I am wondering if it is possible, then, for an aspie to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:47 am
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| It does matter how sad you are, that is not invalid just because they don't understand it. And it SHOULD matter to him.... It SHOULD matter to my friend too. But it doesn't. And I probably am seeing what I wanted to see, but honestly, it's pretty hard to get told "I feel closer to you than any ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 7:05 am
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| That's how I feel too.... Like it's highly unlikely they will ever do anything at all to initiate contact. I'll never understand how that's OK to them or why they'd rather run. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2018, 6:22 am
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| Or I'm just a stupid girl who only sees what she wants to be there rather than what is actually there. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 10:19 pm
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| Already tried, after many many months had gone by, to hand him that olive branch. So has Anngables to her friend. A simple birthday wish. Saying hello at a chance encounter. A heartfelt letter asking for communication. Nothing. Nada. Totally ignored all contact, including right in front of my face--... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 9:24 pm
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| Looks like you edited your post cberg. I'm not generalizing anyone. Just hurting. You can't communicate with someone who won't communicate back. Nothing can be done. The more we try, the more they retreat. And I had no communication with him for 7 months..... If that's not enough time to get some sp... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 8:50 pm
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| I really appreciate your comments cberg. But call me silly, I have no idea what optimism has to do with anything. Optimism about what? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 8:26 pm
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| At a guess you seem to be at odds with aspie optimism. It's kind of insufferable, sure, but it gets many of us through the day more easily than social guesswork. I can't really say if you were lied to. We really aren't all the same. I don't understand what you just said. If by optimism you mean cut... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 8:16 pm
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| In my case, it has nothing to do with social media. And it's so much more than Anngables getting blocked in only that way. So much more than that. It hurts so much because it's like I was lied to. Like I had a friend whom I adored, then it's like, no, never mind, never gave a damn about you anyway. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 7:54 pm
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| My Aspie friend. . . . .we have been having more and more difficulties, fall outs and arguments. He accuses me of smothering him. I suggest I just want a degree of reciprocation . . .. . He has now blocked me and ignored all messages. . . . .whats the chances of him deciding he misses me and making... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 6:11 pm
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| I will survive . . .. .. . I just carry guilt that I should have adapted more. . . .. But the truth is much of the time we were causing each other more anxiety than enjoyment. When we were in each other’s company it was lovely. . . .. it was trying to maintain contact between times that caused the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 5:32 pm
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| Ditto everything you said. But I still don't understand how they can disregard us and seem to not care at all about that. It's doubled: they don't seem to care that we are not in their lives (they pushed us out) AND they don't care that we DID care and that we feel loss as a result of their absence ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What’s the likelihood? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 5:13 pm
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| It must be hard to accept that the other person is putting an end to a relationship, unilaterally. Because a relationship's nature is just opposite : reciprocal. I personally tend to end first all relationships because they are overwhelming to me, generate a lot of anxiety and are too much time-con... |
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