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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What is your career? |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2018, 5:02 pm
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| " a decent IQ " is IMHO an unfortunate phrase to use in this forum. I apologize for the word choice. Looking back, I wanted to echo the phrase "high IQ" that's been used but then I felt arrogant saying that, and more than a little dishonest, because (like everyone) my intelligen... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What is your career? |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2018, 7:21 pm
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| In any case, as for successful people with ASD, my two cents is that it comes down to a certain "will to cope socially" as much as brute IQ. I'm not successful by any means but I hold a job and I'm married. I don't think my job is technically difficult (it's mostly boring), but socially, ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2018, 10:19 am
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Replies: 31
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| I mean I don't want to ruin the moment. When we were together, he was always an easily-mov-on type of person. He would always be fine the next day after an argument, but most of the time I couldn't let go of the issues and fussed about it. It intensified it and ruined it again and again. Apparently... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2018, 8:29 am
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| Hey, what to meant to say that "however tempting it is to engage, it's never worth it". For context: I had an ex where we had a relationship that was all about her needs, I didn't understand relationships very well at the time and thought I was just being nice and accommodating, but the mo... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Open letter to Health Canada on Dietary Guidelines |
| justRob |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2018, 4:54 pm
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| This is all good for eaters, but meat and dairy have a much lower profit margin than most high carb foods, especially the colorful and well-marketed stuff. Is nobody here thinking of the food industry's needs? And what about the industry for insulin and diabetes medication? Wide adoption of these gu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2018, 4:26 pm
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| Not to suggest your ex has a personality disorder (bpd, narc, other), this sort of behavior pattern is often just a cultural thing, or personailty thing, or maybe just defense mechanisms from past hurt. But everything still applies. He's shown himself to be selfish and manipulative in relationships,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2018, 4:13 pm
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| In my experience, and a lot of experiences I've had the displeasure of witnessing, some partners out there have a pattern of engineering relationships to be one-sided, where their partners do almost all of the sacrifice and emptional work, and they get away with doing little to none (even though the... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Any studies on aspies with strong social skills? |
| justRob |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2018, 10:43 am
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| @cyberdad - That's interesting, I feel like I'm really finally catching my stride in my 30's myself. I don't have to put myself through years of awful social situations and relationships to improve my skills anymore, like I went through in my teens, and to a progressively lesser extent through my 20... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Any studies on aspies with strong social skills? |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2018, 8:03 pm
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Lintar wrote: If you have strong social skills, then it's far more likely you're a sociopath than an "aspie".
I can only speak for myself, but I care deeply about people in my life, and humanity in general. So sociopath is kind of ruled out by that. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I dont feel people's emotions. |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2018, 8:00 pm
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| What specific sorts of trouble do you have with others' emotions? - Trouble identifying which emotions others are feeling? - Trouble understanding why people are feeling what they are? - Trouble relating their emotions in yourself (imagining yourself feeling these emotions)? - Trouble feeling emotio... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Any studies on aspies with strong social skills? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2018, 7:45 pm
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| @Nightingale79 Thank you for sharing!! This is just what I am wondering about, what sort of things have actually helped autistic folks to learn social / communication skills. I see so much just from what you've written here... Your early use of imitation in social interactions (I used imitation as w... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Any studies on aspies with strong social skills? |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2018, 8:15 pm
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| ...it makes you ask questions if anything what the NTs say about people relations actually makes any sense, doesn't it? Ah yeah I see what you mean. Asking the average NT about social relations (or even the average autism professional) gets you nothing but a bunch of chaff thrown (smugly) in your f... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Any studies on aspies with strong social skills? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 1:40 pm
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| Does anyone know of any studies / surveys on auties/aspies who have found success in long term relationships, careers, and have strong performance in communication, cognitive empathy, and social skills? The question is, what level of success is enough. That's a good question, "success" wo... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Will a meal replacement shake help me lose weight? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2018, 7:22 am
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Replies: 14
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| You know what, I actually don't disagree with you. I guess just tend to play devils advocate on these matters, because I've debated too many people who became dogmatic about low carb, and then thought it was the only way to lose weight(in all scenarios). Your point about what a normal person is, is... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Will a meal replacement shake help me lose weight? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2018, 1:44 pm
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Replies: 14
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| With 1 in 3 people (in America) pre-diabetic (whether they know it or not), and the OP saying he has a lot of sugar in his diet and has been gaining weight, it seems like he might be one to benefit from low carb or keto. I tried to make it clear in my original post that this isn't the solution for e... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Will a meal replacement shake help me lose weight? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2018, 9:29 am
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| All you need is a calorie deficit, your body is going to use the energy it needs regardless. Keto is not more effective, and neither is low fat, the notion that these are better is psuedo science. Actually, low carb being equivalent to high fat for weight loss is a myth. You may have heard this ide... |
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