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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Asperger’s guys who want male friends but not female friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2019, 5:25 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,653
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| Why do some people only want same gender friends? Can someone explain? Well, to name one reason, girls and women have monthly menstrual periods that cause changes in their mood, feelings, and personalities, and they can’t even be open about them with their male friends. So boys and men never know w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Asperger’s guys who want male friends but not female friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2019, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,653
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| I wanted to know how many other straight cisgender guys besides me there are on the spectrum who only want other straight cisgender guys as their friends? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Would it matter if someone had no friends? |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2019, 8:14 pm
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Replies: 75
Views: 2,499
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Prometheus18 wrote: I don't have any friends, and I don't consider myself an especially bad person.
How can you be happy without any friends at all? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why we have opposite sex friends not just same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2019, 9:18 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,659
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| Basically, my entire life revolves around making sure everything goes exactly the way I expect it to, that I don’t have to worry that anything I do is going to get me into trouble, and that I am always right and nothing happens that I do not want to happen. This leaves little to no room for traditi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why we have opposite sex friends not just same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2019, 12:17 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,659
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| How do you not see personality? You don't notice, for example, that different people tend to have different behavior patterns, different likes and dislikes, different attitudes, different sense of humor, etc.? That's exactly right. I only see MY point of view, what interests ME, how *I* feel, and I... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Having only same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2019, 6:53 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 1,656
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| Are you assuming, by the way, that there are only two genders "determined at birth"? Are you aware of the existence of people who are born intersex? (See Intersex Society of America and the relevant Wikipedia page .) Many, though by no means all, transgender people were actually born inte... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why we have opposite sex friends not just same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2019, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 46
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| That’s part of the problem for me right there, I don’t see personality at all. How do you not see personality? You don't notice, for example, that different people tend to have different behavior patterns, different likes and dislikes, different attitudes, different sense of humor, etc.? That's exa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Having only same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2019, 7:24 pm
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Replies: 50
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| Out of curiosity, could you make friends with trans men? No, because I believe that transgender is immoral and unnatural, and I believe that gender is determined at birth and cannot be changed. Are you assuming, by the way, that there are only two genders "determined at birth"? Are you aw... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why we have opposite sex friends not just same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2019, 7:15 pm
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Replies: 46
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| I am of the female gender and I can understand why it's hard to understand. People are different whether all your friends are of the opposite gender or not. I am a tomboy and despite what people think, I am that way, all of my friends are guys, all that matters is that the persons personality not t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Having only same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2019, 7:13 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 1,656
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| I expect all my friends to be within the same circle of friends with me, and that none of us will have nor want nor need any friends outside of our own circle. Why do you expect this? Why on Earth would you want to close off yourself, and your friends, to the possibility of making more friends and ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Having only same sex friends |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2019, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 1,656
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| It’s a combination of the way I was brought up along with my Asperger’s black and white way of thinking. I was raised in a conservative Christian home, and I also went on spiritual retreats where they emphasized the difference between boys and girls, men and women and the importantance if waiting u... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Giving up on trying to have friends altogether |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2019, 11:53 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 2,399
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jimmy m wrote: Some of my best friends throughout the years have been other Aspies. They possess the qualities I search for the most. Qualities like honesty, loyalty, directness, great imagination and sincerity.
Perhaps you are searching in all the wrong places?
I don’t even know where to look anymore. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Having only same sex friends |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2019, 8:04 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 1,656
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| I don’t want any opposite sex friends and I don’t want any same sex friends that have opposite sex friends either. What about same-sex friends who have same-sex friends who have opposite-sex friends? And same-sex friends who have same-sex friends who have same-sex friends who have opposite-sex frie... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neurotypicals and autistics: The same species in name only |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2019, 12:22 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 1,325
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| I very often feel that those of us in the autism spectrum are really essentially a completely different species from neurotypicals, and that aside from human biology we are completely different and can never understand one another, no matter how hard we try. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Life with AS is a living hell |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2019, 11:44 pm
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Replies: 94
Views: 2,142
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| I don't mind having AS. Aren’t you unhappy with not being able to make or have friends? Why do you assume that people on the spectrum are unable to make or have friends? :? It's certainly not true of all of us. I'm on the spectrum & am able to both make and keep friends quite easily. I have mor... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Life with AS is a living hell |
| Mapofsteel |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2019, 11:07 pm
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Replies: 94
Views: 2,142
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Prometheus18 wrote: I don't mind having AS.
Aren’t you unhappy with not being able to make or have friends? |
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