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Forum: The Haven Topic: When should I stop thinking things over? |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2025, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 2
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| I don't why but it reminds me of the quote from Jack Torrance from the film the Shining to his wife "you've had your all f**king life to think things over!" I seem to think I take too long to think about things that I worry about. I seem to feel as though in your 30s I should stop thinking... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When are you ever to be "ready" for a child? |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2025, 9:48 am
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| A remember a young woman who had a 10 year old so she must have had him or her rather young and she said in response to people being "ready" for children, "well when are you ever going to be ready for a screaming child?" My sister had her son at 26, when I was 26, it never crosse... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why go to nightclubs when they are worse places to meet... |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2025, 9:48 am
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Replies: 0
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| Women ? I watched a video by the YouTuber Courtney Ryan about the best and worst places to meet women which some how seem to ease the worries of missing out because I didn't spend a lot of time trying to meet people in certain social environments. She said that nightclubs are the worse places to mee... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Don't feel like going out but worried I'm missing out |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2025, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 213
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| I seem to think if we didn't have night clubs, festivals, drinking parties and stuff like that, I probably wouldn't be having this fear that I'm missing out on what people are "supposed" to do when they are young. I hear time and again from other people who say they didn't like that stuff ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Don't feel like going out but worried I'm missing out |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2025, 10:14 am
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Replies: 4
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| I seem to myself unable to act on my worries and thoughts of feeling like my time is running out when it comes to meeting new people and a potential partner but because I've a lot of people (millennials) getting married and having kids, it's making me feel like not bothering because everyone has bee... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feel bad for being attracted to women younger than me |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2025, 3:21 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 3,841
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| I can't understand why it would be a problem even if someone's partner is 5 years older or younger than them because this video I saw about age gaps explained that as the age gap widens from 5 years onwards the more likely there might be a split up or divorce. Someone did explain that it might be di... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Are we supposed to have lots of experiences before 30s? |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2025, 2:26 pm
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Replies: 1
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| On too fast One thing I don't like is time moving too fast. I seem to think it's the thing I dread and I want to live in the moment and not think about things too far ahead. When the pandemic was going on, I was worried it was going to go on forever and hated that things were getting delayed because... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A part of me feels "what's the point anymore?" |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2025, 11:35 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 127
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| There is a part of me that feels like giving up because because I seem to find myself restricted to meeting new people or potential partners who might be younger than me because I'm worried of being seen as a weirdo hanging out with people younger than me. I'm feeling as though the more people of my... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How come others know more in their 20s than I? |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2025, 6:28 am
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Replies: 6
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| I feel like when I was in my early 20s, I should have known how about how to exercise, eat the right foods and have the same mindset I have now back then. I found out that your brain doesn't stop forming until 25 but it just feels as though they know more about certain things than those older. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Don't feel like going out but worried I'm missing out |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2025, 4:31 pm
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Replies: 4
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| I don't go back to work until next week unless I get a call to cover someone but I don't feel like wanting to go out on my days off. I feel more motivated to do so if I'm working or have appointments to go to or errands to run. When I don't, I'm finding it hard to motivate myself to go out especiall... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are hookups and casual sex the norm when you're young? |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2025, 9:29 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 988
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| I sometimes feel bad because of the lack of experience but doesn't appeal to me to hookup and have sex with someone casually who I don't know well. It just feels as though it's the norm for people when they are young. It also feels as though everyone during the college and uni years were having sex ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feel bad for being attracted to women younger than me |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2025, 3:35 pm
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Replies: 45
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| I remember watching a video about age gap relationships and saying that the larger the age gap is the more likely they might split up due to various factors like life experiences, health, finances and so on. It said that a two to three year age gap is ideal but four to ten years or more the risk of ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Are we supposed to have lots of experiences before 30s? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2025, 12:58 pm
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| I seem to think since the end of the pandemic, I've felt the need to make up for lost time because for two years we didn't go abroad to places, go out to many places in this country and going to social events and gatherings. I had two days out one year to some wild animal parks. I went to Naples and... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Rushing things seems to make me anxious |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2025, 2:04 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I remember the last person I met, she was eager for a relationship with me but I didn't and were both in our mid 20s but even now my mindset feels like it hasn't changed much about it despite not having met someone yet. I'm worried if my potential partner is over 25 or nearly 30 or just over 30 they... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Hardly dated and feel like time is running out for dates |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2025, 9:29 am
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Replies: 36
Views: 3,859
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| It's basically the same. Normally your future wife is going to be roughly the same age so effectively if you are in your mid-30s then she's going to be around that age. Well I'm aspiring to meet someone who is a bit younger than me maybe late 20s or early 30s. I don't feel like just dating people a... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Why rush things and just live in the moment? |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2025, 10:57 am
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| It just feels that people I know or recognise from school, college or uni days who get to 30 or in their 30s now who have partners, husbands and wives with kids makes it feel to me like they are doing it because it's now or never and that's one of the reasons I'm feeling like I'm pressuring myself t... |
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