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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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| Then I appreciate the flattery and thank you. And, yes, there are indeed many people that are capable of determining the level of skill of others. They're not always good at the thing that they're capable of determining the skill level of themselves though. In my own experience, sometimes the peopl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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| The video is a humorous example of both missing the point, and making things far more complicated than they need to be. When you put that much thought into every tiny behavior, it becomes an act. Just passively listening, w/o getting lost in your own internal thoughts like the fella in the video di... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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| You're twisting words and misinterpreting again. Context effects usage and word meaning. Context has been an important factor this entire time and has been mentioned previously. As for the other point, I was merely attempting to keep things civil and answer in good faith that you did not intend to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 11:03 pm
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| I think of "social skills" as being in two distinct categories: (1) what I call autistic-friendly social skills and (2) conformity to (culture-dependent) NT social norms that are intrinsically hard for many autistic people for neurological reasons (e.g. culturally mainstream eye contact r... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 5:55 pm
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| Leaving your comfort zone, and getting used to new experiences. Social skill require social situations in order to practice. One must therefore exist in social settings, to then have social interactions. Even if it's just going to a place, being there for a few minutes, then leaving. Get used to be... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Actor John Boyega attacks Star wars fans for his career |
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Posted: Yesterday, 2:47 pm
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"Nobody is gatekeeping the fandom"?  That's a good one.
Lucas and Roddenberry were both avid readers of the Smith fella I mentioned previously.
Yes, there is more female and PoC representation in media today - and just look at how much people complain about it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 2:00 pm
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| @VioletKnight So now it's not the usage of the word "seems", but the context of it? And it's wrong to change words, unless you don't like the connotation of a word? Got it. Seems like we're makin' up rules as we go along... Also, according to science, if you're not good at something, you d... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Actor John Boyega attacks Star wars fans for his career |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2025, 4:17 pm
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| Sure, fans aren’t directly responsible for that, but there may have been concerns about what would appeal to fans due to its overwhelmingly White and overwhelmingly male legacy. It’s improving, especially in its inclusion of women, but it’s not quite there yet. women were never really into Sci-fi w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2025, 4:09 pm
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| Seems like you've ignored all the times I have used the word "seems", including the one right at the beginning of the last quote of mine you quoted. Seems like you've also ignored all the times I did quote you and replied. Seems like quoting me doesn't help you remember to not "rephra... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2025, 1:54 pm
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| Again: I didn't say that I was refusing to change my mind, I said you would not be changing it with the way you're going about things. Had you engaged me without all the willful misinterpretation and projecting and had your argument been compelling enough I might have at least considered your stanc... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2025, 1:10 pm
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| Asking someone to agree to disagree is often merely a polite way of saying your arguments aren't persuasive and I've lost interest in waiting for them to become persuasive . And I've politely declined. I can see where further confusion arises from, though. My arguments aren't meant to be persuasive... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2025, 10:38 pm
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| A valid point about being a novice / beginner I heard tonight. As a novice, with no previous experience, you don't even know how little you even know. After you learn for a while, you start to realize just how much you didn't know, and still don't know. It's at this point where people may give up, c... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2025, 10:17 pm
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| I could make the same argument, and claim that you're stubbornly sticking to your views regardless of anything I say. I'm not twisting your words, I'm scrutinizing them. Scrutiny is not obfuscation. And I'd stick to my views regardless. You keep inventing new narratives to accuse me of, and while it... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Actor John Boyega attacks Star wars fans for his career |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2025, 9:37 pm
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| I am saying this is disingenuous because a) Star wars is science fiction, and science fiction has always been a white space b) the era star wars was ascendent with the largest number of fans was 1976-1982. During this time there were no black faces on the media at all? Cosby show wouldn't start til... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2025, 8:11 pm
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| I know what the difference between a reason and an excuse is. Again, had I meant "excuse" then I would have said "excuse". And no, I am not claiming that you "must intentionally be acting obstinate and antagonistic" as an excuse. I am pointing out the behavior that I a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Do People Refuse To Practice Social Skills? |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2025, 2:53 am
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| A reason just explains a correlation. "The reason I was late for work is I got a flat tire" When it becomes a justification for a difference in treatment, or a lessening of consequence, it becomes an excuse. "The reason I was late for work is I got a flat tire, so please don't penaliz... |
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