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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do we lack empathy or is it just different than NTs? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2021, 8:24 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 2,518
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| Personally I feel I lack emotional interpretation both of myself and others. I strugfle to innately understand what I am feeling including whrn empathizing with others which can make it seem like I don't empathize even when I do. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2021, 7:59 am
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Replies: 170
Views: 6,785
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| Also: I don't value romantic relationships over platonic ones. My husband and I were platonic for 5 years and he was just as important to me then as now. For me romantic and sexual relationships are relationships and friendships are relationships. What matters is not what sort of relationship you h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do You Think Dating Would Be Easier If You Were Neurotypical |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 2,602
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| I think it would be easier to get dates and get into relationships but not easier to find real love and a meaningful relationship. Being autistic cuts a lot of BS people from my life quickly. I also don't feel the need for a partner so I am less likely to make bad choices. I married my best friend s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why scientists think this year will be the ‘summer of STIs’ |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 653
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| If you're immunocompromised like me be extra careful cause our bodies are bredding grounds for antibiotic resistant bacteria. Also I'm staying in quarentine till 2022 for sure anyways. No chances. I know too many dead people. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 170
Views: 6,785
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| Also: I don't value romantic relationships over platonic ones. My husband and I were platonic for 5 years and he was just as important to me then as now. For me romantic and sexual relationships are relationships and friendships are relationships. What matters is not what sort of relationship you ha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 5:34 pm
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Replies: 170
Views: 6,785
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| While being poly might not be popular or mainstream I find poly people are often more mature. Particularly more so than serial monogamous people who go through partners rapidly. It also depends on where you are. In my LGBT circles poly people are just as in demand as monogamous. Seeing poly people o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 170
Views: 6,785
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| My husband and I both identify as polyamorous. We don't really understand the difference between having multiple friends and having multiple partners in the sense that one is considered normal and the other strange. We are married and have made a commitment to eachother to be together for life but w... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Movie- The Art of Self Defense, main character has Aspergers |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:28 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 612
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| My husband loves this movie. Never mentioned the ASD though, I wonder if he picked up on it. (He's also on the spectrum) |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: This is BS! |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,294
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| My advice would be to go to A&E next time you have been physically hurt and get the doctor to write up a report. Many hospitals also can provide a social worker to properly submit that report to police. It sucks that is whats necessary and is total BS that we don't just believe victims of abuse ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Autistic-friendly social skills vs. blending in with NT's |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 15,091
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| Responding to OP: you just perfectly described the ground rules in our house as two married autistics. They make a big difference and are things we have always done some of with eachother but structuring it is still helpful as arguments happen and these rules keep things civil and prevent misunderst... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Any tips on how to make online friends? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,355
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| "This is why many quite intelligent people have trouble making friends. It's because they have very high standards for themselves and for others." This describes both me and my husband well. I would say that it is possible though to make friends with having high standard but if you do go t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is socializing worth it? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 4:03 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 1,785
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| Its a trade off. I don't need friends the way NTs do but I kinda agree with the sentiment that _most_ people are rather crappy and so I try to keep a collection of friends who are not. "High quality people" as I like to say are rare and should be valued as friends even when that is hard wo... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Anyone else terrified for five days after going out? |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 661
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| I'm immunocompromised and haven't been out in months except for doctors... I think I'm lucky to be autistic though cause at least I don't miss seeing people. I basically don't plan on comming out until we reach herd immunuty. I'm currently bedbound due to illness anyway so its not like I have a lot ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Autistic Symptoms With Good "Social Intelligence" |
| petraA |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2021, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,394
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| Update: I have met with my new therapist a few times now and she definitely thinks I'm autistic but we're not going through with a formal diagnosis right now partly for immigration reasons. My parents also had a lot of input of sensory and social issues I had as a kid but forgot about. One thing I r... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Being "cutesy" as an adult |
| petraA |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2021, 10:18 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,906
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| I find that a lot of "cutsy" things like having lots of plushies, being childish, coloring, etc can really help me regulate my mood and lighten my stress which I have a lot of due to being sick. I also always take my plushie panda or dragon with me to the doctors cause I find it tend to ma... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: High functioning girls/women. Help! |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2021, 1:28 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,482
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| I think this describes me well... my sister was my biggest abuser growing up, she's younger and NT and always knew how to hurt me verbally until I would break down or blow up then plan the innocent little sibling card and somehow convince all the adults that I was being a mean unreasonable older sis... |
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