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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you given up trying to persuade people |
| Honestlyme |
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Posted: 21 May 2021, 11:58 pm
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| I have a theory and I want to know if it holds up. As someone on the autism spectrum, how proficient are you at tailoring arguments to individuals in order to change their minds? How likely are you to try to persuade others of taking your perspective? I.e. going beyond letting the facts speak for th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2021, 10:59 am
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Replies: 22
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| @snail: you're right, I will wait for the diagnosis. @nick: I did say that the breach came from both sides, but I was violated in a much deeper, more substantial way. So I'm very confused myself right now. I can hardly do the calculus of how confused and frustrated he must feel. I know it intellectu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
| Honestlyme |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2021, 7:16 pm
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You're right, I kind of am, but not really. It's more of a "am I hot or cold?" situation.
The diagnosis will come from a professional, assuming he goes through with therapy. I would like to hear your thoughts about the other things. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
| Honestlyme |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2021, 6:11 pm
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| It's a play on asking to marry. I was trying to be literary. I'm not asking for a diagnosis, but these are what I'm basing my perception on: Learned 2 languages in less than 2 years. Monopolizing conversation. Detailed knowledge of specific topics. Trouble with hypothetical tasks like imagining bein... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2021, 10:32 am
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Replies: 22
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| Hi, I'm back. Apparently "for as long as I can stand" wasn't a very long time and I broke up with him, right before telling him I think he has Aspergers. He immediately became very forthcoming, but it turns out he had no idea he might be autistic. People have suggested it to him over the y... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2021, 2:03 pm
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Replies: 22
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threetoed snail wrote: Valid explanations aren't necessarily valid justifications.
! !! !! I completely agree. There have been neither explanations nor justifications though  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2021, 1:59 pm
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| It might actually be something else. It's just the way he alludes to some hidden part of himself in relation to why he can't talk. He's definitely on the spectrum, but he might have something really wrong with him that warrants him hiding it. We'd have to talk about it to find that out too... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2021, 1:47 pm
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| It's not the revelation that I think will magically fix things. The problem is the fact that I'm observing him beating himself up about it and trying really hard to hide it, which is hindering our communication about the actual matter. He thinks he did wrong because of who he fundamentally is and he... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2021, 6:18 pm
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| Thanks. I've decided I'm scared to death of bringing this up. I'll sit on it for a day or so. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2021, 1:54 pm
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| Tell him that you've read an article about Asperger's, and that you find it interesting. Do you know anybody else who has Asperger's, or autism? That's a good idea. I don't want to put you out, but could anyone recommend an article to use? Most articles make autism sound rather sh :?: t and I want ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Popping the question |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2021, 1:29 pm
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Replies: 22
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| I suspected my boyfriend has aspergers a few months into our relationship. He never told me (directly), but he has all the stereotypical hallmarks. We never discussed it and I have ADD, so I genuinely just forgot about it. Now two years later, we're going through a pretty huge crisis involving a bre... |
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