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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being likeable. |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2025, 6:27 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 5,402
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| I’ve been told that wanting to be likeable shouldn’t be a priority. Liking myself should be the goal. But, I can’t help myself. I want people to like me. I just want to be an easy person to be around. (I googled how to spell ‘likeable’. I get the red dotted-line but I think it’s correct) I was once... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Changing own personality traits |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2025, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 7,477
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| Speaking realistically, people are in a state of change and don't have stable traits. That means whatever you're attributing to yourself isn't intrinsic to you, but it also means you will never fully achieve your 'ideal self.' People generally have very little control over 'who they are' in the mome... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I blame myself for the lack of friends I have. |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2025, 10:33 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 5,105
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| Is it weird that I'm thinking maybe trying to make more friends is not a great idea for me? I find it so difficult because of my condition and I wonder if it's even worth trying? Everyone has limited time and energy; you get to decide where the most valuable returns for it are to be found. 'More fr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I blame myself for the lack of friends I have. |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2025, 8:14 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 5,105
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| It sounds like you're doing better than some people without disabilities. Of course, you aren't obligated to like the situation. PS. I think it's interesting that you seem to see your disabilities as something external to 'you', such that it frees you from culpability if the disabilities are blamed.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I blame myself for the lack of friends I have. |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2025, 9:09 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 5,105
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| Having no friends is becoming increasingly common in society. Without repeated coincidental interactions, it's hard to make friends. For many adults, that means they're limited to spouse/kids and work colleagues. As for not being likeable, if there's traits you don't like having, you can work on tho... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it weird that I find trying to make friends is a hassle? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2025, 11:50 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 14,887
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| I dislike interacting in large groups, personally. I can enjoy it with one or two people besides myself. More than that and I am likely quietly listening to people. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why am I accused of arguing all the time? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2025, 12:20 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 13,274
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| Usually people mean that the conversation feels hostile, like there's a confrontation. They may have just wanted to say their piece and move on, but then you responded in detail. They may just need more reassurance, a quieter and more gentle tone, etc. Think about how you're try to speak to a young ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Women who are childless or childfree |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2025, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 11,253
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| I do agree that it doesn't necessarily mean people are more selfish, but stereotypical the mother is sacrificing everything for her kids etc. For someone who spends most of their nonwork time time on kids and the household, there's naturally a question of how we are spending our time. In my case, I ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Women who are childless or childfree |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2025, 1:28 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 11,253
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| I remember one time I told a man I didn't want to have kids and he asked me if I thought I wasn't attractive. Kind of silly. A lot of people can't process someone not wanting to raise kids. I don't even dislike kids; I just don't want to interact with them as a parent. I feel like stigma isn't too b... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recent Setbacks for Women/Women’s Rights |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 33,795
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| In my case, I was dependent on them. I had no idea how to deal with the problems I was having, why everyone seemed to dislike me and look down me, or how to deal with various other challenges in my life. Neither did I have another way to make social connections. In addition to being a situation anot... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recent Setbacks for Women/Women’s Rights |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 3:53 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 33,795
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| We can call it something other than information if you want, but I'm meaning to describe my experience as someone who could be described as "marginalized in some way". To me, writing is a form of information that's exchanged on social platforms like reddit or webforums, which I used due to... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recent Setbacks for Women/Women’s Rights |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 33,795
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| In the past, I was similarly dependent on certain information only available from online communities, like how to deal with problems or where to seek resources. This mostly worked out okay with webforums like this one, but I've observed the risk growing while the benefit is decreasing. Since I alrea... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recent Setbacks for Women/Women’s Rights |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 10:47 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 33,795
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| I have been trying to stop myself from reading and posting on old.reddit.com. I think it's the best 'modern' social media, but ultimately it increases your chance of seeing something bad or getting into unnecessary conflicts. Occasionally I need some information on there and I try to use my phone si... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recent Setbacks for Women/Women’s Rights |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 8:59 am
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Replies: 18
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| My two cents, disconnect from the news and social media as much as possible. The "As much as possible" is key - I was trying to describe why I felt insecure in my US state and someone told me not to worry about it and stop following the news. Great advice for me to end up in jail, given th... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Shaving legs |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2025, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 14,118
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| Has anyone ever felt as if they were put on Earth to challenge this kind of arbitrary double standard? As a very unmasked person, I will never again spend time and money to look like a nonexistent hairless species. Only kids have ever pointed out my body hair. When I tell them something normalizing... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Am I mad? I really hate having breasts |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2024, 8:37 am
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Replies: 129
Views: 78,632
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| Funny story, I am transgender and considered male at birth. When I was younger, I tried seeing a gender therapist so that I could get HRT. HRT wasn't offered on an informed consent basis in my state, so I needed a therapist letter to bring to the endocrinologist. The therapist was a elderly, white, ... |
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