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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dale Carnegie: How To Win Friends and Influence People |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2009, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 9,762
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Hi Sicklee,
I agree with you, but my point is that being "social" in the NT world is actually one and the same thing as being an effective salesman. This is why Aspies have a serious problem with it. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dale Carnegie: How To Win Friends and Influence People |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2009, 9:11 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 9,762
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| I actually feel that Dale Carnegie was slightly Asperger. Most NTs do not think about this type of stuff, much less formalize it and write a book about it. Carnegie wrote this book because he himself struggled with the issue. I read the book half way. Much of his advice is widely known these days, s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you naturally drawn to other Aspies? |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2008, 11:12 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,985
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Do you find yourself naturally drawn to others who exhibit Asperger-like personalities?
I got my diagnosis very recently, and I now feel that everyone around me has AS. It's quite possible that they do, and I was unconsciously drawn to them. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where your parents abusive to you? What's their excuse? |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 9:06 am
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Replies: 53
Views: 5,170
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| Some further clarifications: The difference between “abuse” and “mistake” is one of intention. “Abuse” by default is an accusatory term, and implies crime and blame. “Mistake” in comparison to it lacks the malicious intent. Even in the court of law, “accident” and “crime” are distinguished by intent... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where your parents abusive to you? What's their excuse? |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 7:36 am
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Replies: 53
Views: 5,170
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| Mr. Robotto (Styx?), I think it is prejudice to make we aspies statements as much as it is prejudice to say something about any other group, religious, ethnic or otherwise. And to be honest, most children, NT or ASD alike, can not understand the psychological mechanisms behind the abuse, nor can th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where your parents abusive to you? What's their excuse? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2008, 9:16 pm
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Replies: 53
Views: 5,170
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| One of the most disrespectful and mean things one can do is denying someones personal history and pain with an alleged statistical 'fact'. This denial, this conspiracy to silence, only aggravates the effects of the abuse. I did not mean to say that ALL instances of "abuse" are misinterpretations or... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where your parents abusive to you? What's their excuse? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2008, 12:55 pm
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Replies: 53
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| A few things to keep in mind. People with AS have been shown to have a lack of, and/or distorted, autobiographical memories. This is partly because we (Aspies) are mind-blind, and we tend to misinterpret other people's intentions, motives, and beliefs. It is also possible that we do not remember muc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where your parents abusive to you? What's their excuse? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2008, 7:37 am
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Replies: 53
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| Until recently I had hated my father. He was mean, abusive, and uncaring. But this all changed once I started suspecting that he too has AS. After that, all the weird things he did to me started to make sense. I think it's typical of parents with AS to do what's theoretically best for their children... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emoticons |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2008, 7:16 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 6,743
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| Hmm... This is interesting. What exactly is the difference between learning that :( = sad and $ = dollar? Emoticons are symbols that represent certain emotional states. There is no need to read or intuit emotions behind emoticons. It's like learning any other symbols. Do you have problem understandi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you see OTHER people's social problems? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2008, 4:08 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,802
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| I guess it actually makes sense. As an Aspie, you are constantly concerned about how other people are perceiving you. Because you don’t understand it intuitively, your intellectual side is working hard to compensate for it. This intellectual understanding of social interaction can be communicated an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you see OTHER people's social problems? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2008, 2:19 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,802
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| Part of the reason why I'm asking this question is because my diagnosis is very new. In fact, I just got it last Thursday. I had assumed that my AS was mild, but my doctor didn't think so. Although, I'm clearly blind to certain emotional cues, I seem to pick up on many social frictions other people ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you see OTHER people's social problems? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2008, 1:39 pm
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Replies: 16
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| When I see Aspies on TV, I clearly see what they are doing wrong. (Like in the recent documentary "Today's Man".) It's very obvious to me why other people (NTs) are getting frustrated. It makes me feel like going up to the Aspie and telling him, "Look, let me tell you why your coworker here is getti... |
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: Do you think Bobby Fischer may have had Asperger's Sydrome? |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2008, 6:45 am
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Replies: 23
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| It makes perfect sense that he had Asperger's Syndrome. In fact, it's odd that not many people are talking about it. You can almost see how his brain is structured, with intensely hyper-connectivity in the areas that pertain to chess, with severely low-connectivity in the areas of socializing. His c... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know if you are emotionally blind? |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2008, 8:46 pm
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Replies: 31
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| Hi Lupin and Wolfpup, I think what you guys are saying make sense, however I wonder about which comes later in evolution. Asperger brains are highly specialized brains. As such, it makes sense that it favored local super-connectivity by sacrificing inter-departmental connectivity. Lying requires the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know if you are emotionally blind? |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2008, 6:32 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 13,681
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| I have the same problem where I don't know what to do when someone is in an emotional distress like death in the family. But at the same time, I see what other people do as just following the customs or etiquettes, like sending flowers, calling to say the same ol' condolences line, etc.. You can lea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know if you are emotionally blind? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2008, 11:12 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 13,681
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| I did not want to use the word "empathy" because it's quite different. Even if you are unable to perceive other people's emotions from certain cues, you would still be able to empathize with people as soon as you understand their predicaments conceptually. All you would have to do is to compare thei... |
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