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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
| CookiesNCream101 |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 2:04 pm
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funeralxempire wrote: I'd like to see how many of his buttons I can press. 
Yeah lucky he didn't show up at the party.
Since I had a feeling that I would get into a verbal argument this time. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 2:03 pm
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| Hi Cookies! I agree with Enviro, just completely ignore him. No reaction means he is not getting what he wants from you, so he will get bored and move on. Also, just keep away from him as much as possible. There is always at least one dickhead at every party. You just do what makes you happy, and t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 1:56 pm
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| sometimes agreeing completely with whatever a bully says in a quiet and non defensive manner will de-fuse them. Where is the fun if you don't get upset, react emotionally, or fight back. He will move on to other quarry. I think that would make me look stranger if I agreed with them, or make me look... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2023, 1:52 pm
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| It might be tough to refrain from responding, but try to ignore him totally. Narcissists hate being ignored. Trolling doesn't only happen online! Talk to others as if he isn't there. It doesn't really sound as if your best friend has your best interests at heart. Okay thank you for the advice. Yeah... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2023, 1:07 pm
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| If this guy is so awful why is your friend inviting him in the first place? It doesn't seem like a very smart thing to do. It also doesn't seem like going to this party is your best option either, given the fact that you've been the victim of this guy's abuse and even your best friend didn't seem t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2023, 12:10 pm
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IsabellaLinton wrote: What was he on?
I have no idea.
He was drinking later in the party like the rest of the guys but he was agro (angry and hostile) throughout the whole party, from begining to end. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2023, 10:15 am
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Replies: 43
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| He really sounds like more trouble than he is worth. It’s after midnight, try to get some sleep and forget about it all for a few hours. Sleep well. Yeah you're right, I just feel bad if I came off as rude as I didn't intend to towards anyone. Thanks, hope you sleep well too or have a good morning ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with a Abusive Party Guest |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2023, 10:12 am
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| I have a Halloween party to attend tomorrow; my best friend is hosting it, so I'm definitely going. But there's this one guy who attends who's insane. And when I say insane, he's a full-blown narcissist and verbally abusive. It all started when I met him for the first time at the last party. I compl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 9:18 am
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| It sounds like is interested in more than just friendship. While a little joking around with a friend is okay, it feels like he wants more. People get angry/possessive of other people showing interest in someone they consider ‘theirs’. Best to just ask him what he wants out of your friendship, rath... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 9:09 am
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| If this guy makes you feel bad and you have no romantic feelings towards him, then just cut him off instead of wasting time and energy trying to analyze it. Go with your gut feelings. Stick to people that makes you feel good and secure. The problem is I can't even trust my gut, I've accidently dist... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 9:06 am
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| I have personally had a situation like this recently, and it's been so hard to resist the urge to go back and try to get some reasonably positive and supportive response from them. To clarify what I meant here, I understand that it's really frustrating when you have some sort of a friendship with s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 8:59 am
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| Hi Cookies, have you managed to sort out your problem yet? Hi Dirk, I haven't, sadly. I discussed with him feeling mistreated at his last party a few days afterward. I used phrases like "I feel" or "I felt like" to explain how his actions made me feel like an outcast or enemy. H... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 8:29 am
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Replies: 43
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| I agree with the person in the thread who said that negging is often just part of the power dynamics of NT style social communication and doesn't necessarily have to be part of any PUA tactic or tactics. People do that kind of thing to each other as friends, without any intentions of going to bed w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 8:22 am
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Replies: 43
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honeytoast wrote: run
My brain is saying "run", but then my brain is also saying, "what if this is a huge misunderstanding, since you can't pick up on social cues and you unintentially come off as rude to people when your really anxious or scared."
I'm really conflicted.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 8:19 am
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| Honestly, I think you should block him and just avoid talking to him. You're not going to get anything from that type except more attempts to manipulate you. Why worry about being rude to him when he doesn't show you the same respect? I agree with you. Why bother with someone who is manipulating yo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Caught in a Narcassist's Web of Manipulation: Help! |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2023, 8:09 am
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| Honestly, I think you should block him and just avoid talking to him. You're not going to get anything from that type except more attempts to manipulate you. Why worry about being rude to him when he doesn't show you the same respect? I think it harder this time for me to just block them straight a... |
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