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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2026, 11:06 pm
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Replies: 52
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| And it's over Her health is taking a turn and her desire has been drained. So, while I agreed to be there if she needs a friendly voice, we have mutually decided to end the relationship. Back to the drawing board.. Of course, I'm absolutely devastated. I feel like this relationship was one big tease... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2026, 11:20 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Damn it... why do relationships have to be such emotionally draining roller coasters? We went out on Thursday, first time in two weeks.. It went fine, just fine. Then, the talk happened. I tell her I'd like the relationship to evolve soon (hinting at becoming partners) Again, I get the friend talk f... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2026, 11:29 pm
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Replies: 52
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| In this case, I may take the lead but still leave the timeline on her terms. I don't want a specific time, I want it when our guards have fully dropped. But, right now, it's not even on my mind. I need to get her more comfortable with other acts first, like kissing and touch. The green light is flas... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2026, 9:14 am
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Replies: 52
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| Wow...that's wonderful!! ! Although, first-time of "doing the deed" isn't really all it's cracked up to be, at least that was true for me How will you initiate the process @SilentBob84? Push her aggressively against the wall & make out like in TV shows and movies? Or just subtlety sen... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2026, 11:10 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Well, aliens.... It's no longer if, but a matter of when. This alien is getting laid. We had a dinner date on Saturday which lead to a very deep and emotional conversation in the car that included a little touch. Today, we met last minute for coffee and she got even more flirty on the car ride to my... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2026, 12:18 pm
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Replies: 52
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| It's hard and I feel for you. I'm three years younger and I know online dating can be tough. I've tried match.com and Christian Mingle since I'm a Christian about 4-5 years ago. At this point I am not sure if I will try online dating again or not. I would like to meet someone organically through gr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2026, 12:10 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Yesterday was exactly the night I needed to prove that I truly have nothing to worry about and every fear I had was all made up in my head. We met to see a fireworks show last night for New Year's Eve. Well, it turns out, she was not alone. After the fireworks, we met up with and I got to shake hand... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2025, 9:54 am
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Replies: 52
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| Is she still using this dating app? If yes, then that means she still has hundreds of potential candidates. To me, it feels like an invasion of her privacy to ask about that. I don't doubt there are others she could've considered but, at the end of the day, she chose me. And it feels like I am the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2025, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 52
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| "Unfortunately, the tradition is that women expect men to "initiate" which basically means you need to "make a move"." As it turns out, this is correct.. How do I know? I just got told so tonight, basically, by my gf. This is where I begin to ruminate and think I am jus... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2025, 12:56 am
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Replies: 52
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| I kind of feel like I'm stuck and unsure of what to do right now. And a brief lull in texting has caused me to briefly spiral back into my old ways. This is why the urge can be dangerous for a guy in recovery like myself.. We hadn't texted in over 24 hours, which is rare for us, but that time was en... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2025, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 52
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Ziluz wrote: I feel it too but is hard to find.
It is hard, no doubt about that. After right-swiping sooooooo many women and messaging them, I eventually got one to right-swipe me back. Trust me! It can happen to anybody, it takes luck but it also takes effort and the will to succeed. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2025, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Merry (belated) Christmas! 12/26 update After spending the morning with family, I left to go to her house to spend the entire day with her. The family and I already had our celebrations and dinner this past weekend and I didn't want to leave my girlfriend alone on this day. The day was nothing shor... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2025, 12:21 am
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Replies: 52
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| I was initially scared of physical intimacy as well but I was eased into it by putting all of my trust in him Once I built up that level of trust, it suddenly became much easier to engage in or initiate intimacy! That is the key!! ! And, in order to trust myself to initiate, I just need to overcome... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
| SilentBob84 |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2025, 9:16 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Merry (almost) Christmas! 12/18 update Our friendship is still strong We have been texting almost nightly at this point. With her initiating a lot of the conversations. And she has made more of an effort to see me lately. Since the last post, we have met several times during the day. All of our mee... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2025, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 52
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| 11/12 Update I returned home from my first meet-up with my new girlfriend. I'm confident in calling her that based on how our conversations have gone up to this point. We met at Starbucks on the morning of her birthday. I am having some feelings for her mainly because she's my only option right now... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling the Urge to Find Love |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2025, 1:39 am
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Replies: 52
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| 11/10 update Well...the relationship failed. She texted me informing me that she was going to see another guy. Denied! Was I hurt? Not really, I wasn't too attached. So, back into the pool I go... I was literally getting NO matches, much sadness... I was about to give up...until I got a surprise dm... |
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