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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
| Valia |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2016, 10:42 am
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| Read this article today. Describes a marriage with an Asperger man pretty well. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/married-with-undiagnosed-autism-why-women-who-leave-lose-twice-0420164#comment-399347 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/married-with-undiagnosed-autism-why-women-who-leave-lose-twice-0420164... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
| Valia |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2016, 8:21 am
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Mongoose1,
so nice to hear it
Thanks for sharing! |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
| Valia |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2016, 12:15 pm
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| DataB4, thanks for your support and good intentions :-) I tried everything that possible. If I bring any family needs, or children's, his reaction is - there is enough on my plate, and you want me to do more. He told me that many times. Also, he stated not once, that he is a loner, and doesn't like ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
| Valia |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2016, 8:32 am
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| DataB4, his father would talk to him sometimes. Mostly, if son ask him some questions, he'll answer. My husband has only one hobby - sitting at the computer :( On daily basics, I am there for my son, and all of my children. I found him a Shooting Club for this summer. Going to be taking him there ev... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
| Valia |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2016, 7:27 am
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beakybird,
I am from Europe. English is my second language.
You guys literally - X-ray me here... Picking on me non-stop, and enjoying it.
I am the one of a very few NTs on this forum. Others do not want even bother.
You, Aspergers, should be nicer to me  |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
| Valia |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2016, 10:46 am
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| This communication just shows clearly how Asperger and NT people cannot understand each other, and have not much in common. Just very different mentality. Very wrong place for me to look for any sympathy or even understanding. What I encountered here from you guys, and one gal ( I do not believe she... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 7:08 pm
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PattiT,
Yes, sometimes a break form each other is so helpful.
Just less stress, and some peace...
Take care of yourself, and get better !
Was nice to meet you. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 5:27 pm
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| PattiT, Want to share with you a greatest source of information that I found on Asperger! It's Australian. This is about marriage. Describes my situation. First time I read, i thought to myself: looks like they know all about our lives. Asperger’s Syndrome in Marriage http://www.aspia.org.au/pdf/AS_... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 11:48 am
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| PattiT, I understand. I have experienced similar reaction of my husband to me, when I am in need. I had a female type of surgery couple of years ago, and he left the town for a week. Last year I had emergency appendicitis, while he was away over the weekend for his job. It happened on Saturday, my 1... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 11:33 am
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| plootark, sounds like you are a man with a gentle heart ! You love your daughter so much, and trying your best. I am so happy to hear it! I am glad to learn that some Asperger man are loving, and willing to take responsibility for their family. I have been around so much harshness for 18 yrs, and &q... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 8:35 am
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| PattiT, I married a man without knowing that he has any disorder. Looking back, I realized that we didn't date long enough for it to appear. Little oldness here or there, but I just brushed it off. I think he really tried to be on his best behavior, while dating. It took me 8 yrs to discover what it... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 7:30 am
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| No, change my mind on continuing this kind of communication. Too much aggressiveness here, and some people ready to attack. beakybird "You seem to be very shallow, judgemental and materialistic for someone who says they go to church. Not sure what church espouses that particular value structure... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 6:24 am
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| beakybird, I was all apologizing , after reading just a first small part of your text ! Now I read a whole thing, and realized that you gone after me with a mighty force :-) Telling me who I am and what I am, and what I should think and do... If you re-read what i posted for you, it was facts and so... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
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Posted: 16 May 2016, 5:55 am
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| "Well I would have to take exception to a few things you've inferred here. Some very personal, unfair assessments you seem to make. I sense a very good and true nature in what you are saying. This causes me to refrain from going in a different direction with my response. I'm not sure if you wer... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
| Valia |
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Posted: 15 May 2016, 9:56 pm
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| Sorry to hear it ! I totally understand, and symphatize you ! Experts call it "alone together " life. You are together. But you are alone... NT women are so alone, because they need intimate connection on all levels, appreciation, love and care... Asperger man has completely different need... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: D.I.V.O.R.C.E |
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Posted: 15 May 2016, 9:24 pm
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I am just sharing my experience.
If your experience is different than mine - your welcome to share your as well.
Hopefully, with pleasant attitude. |
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