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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My BF with Aspergers INSISTS on hugs although he hates them |
| Butterflair |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2012, 9:48 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 10,031
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| If he WANTS to hug you then just let him unless it's bothering you. If you like hugs then don't worry about how many there are and that he doesn't want to touch because he obviously DOES want to touch you. It's his choice if he is initiating. He seems to be trying to work on himself too, to make the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Supportive NT-seeking help with Aspie boyfriend issue! HELP |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2012, 9:44 am
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Replies: 62
Views: 9,040
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| Catsas, You should never have to feel guilty or shameful for just being YOU. You are not a trigger, you are not flawed, you are just you. You cannot spend your time watching your words or walking on eggshells. It will tear you down. If you think deep inside yourself about how you feel, that is what ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think I asked a girl out |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2012, 8:53 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,158
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| She replied today that she was free for coffee tomorrow, so we'll probably meet for coffee tomorrow afternoon. I might offer to pay for her coffee, if I can figure out a way to offer. I'll treat it like hanging out. Really, we're just meeting between classes. I'm a little bit proud of myself for at... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think I asked a girl out |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2012, 12:00 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,158
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| She asked you to text her so she would have your number and you did. She probably didn't feel the need to reply. I wouldn't consider it a "date", it's just coffee and talking right now. You still get to spend time with her, doesn't matter what it's called. Don't get overly excited or nervous, just g... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Age gap relationships |
| Butterflair |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2012, 11:54 am
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Replies: 89
Views: 21,080
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Trigas wrote: I seem to only attract older women maybe I should just get used to it and embrace it. 
Yes you should!
leviathans wrote: cougars come to me!
Be careful what you wish for...  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Talking on the phone with my not so girlfriend.. |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2012, 12:11 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,474
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| Try talking over a computer like with skype. My friend doesn't like phones but can talk on headphones all day long. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influx of help me with my Apsie BF postings lately? |
| Butterflair |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2012, 5:06 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 4,083
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| As an NT woman who came her over 3 years ago looking for advice, I have to say that the people here were very kind to me and helpful and I gained a ton of knowledge to apply to my life. In fact it probably saved my relationship because someone else could explain to me what might be happening when he... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My boyfriend's vanished and I'm freaking out please help!! !! |
| Butterflair |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2012, 1:14 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 9,631
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| saying that I once said for him to never speak to me again so he;s doing his best to respect my wishes. That last part might be a clue. Sounds like he took you literal. It may be a huge misunderstanding. I think it would be helpful if you sent one more email, without anger and told him how it reall... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Age gap relationships |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2012, 10:13 am
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Replies: 89
Views: 21,080
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| You know, not too many older women would date a younger guy if she's already been with a guy who has his own place, etc. Yes they would, as an older woman I would have no problem dating a younger guy. It's the person that matters most, not what they own or make or where they live, it's the compatib... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My boyfriend's vanished and I'm freaking out please help!! !! |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2012, 10:04 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 9,631
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| I had similar experiences with my Aspie friend who is also much younger than me. We've been friends for over six years (was online for 5 yrs) and it wasn't until he moved in with his sister that he shut down for a month for the first time. I totally freaked out. One time he shut me out for two month... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I suspect the young master has lost interest in me. |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2010, 3:05 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 4,463
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| Thanks, not what I wanted to hear but I know it's the truth and that is the hardest to accept at times. I will leave him be and let the universe play out what is meant to be. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I suspect the young master has lost interest in me. |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2010, 8:15 pm
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Replies: 31
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| I have a similar situation but in reverse. It's been two weeks since I've heard from my guy (friend) and the last conversation seemed fine. He won't respond to email. This has happened before and it's very distressing to me. He is aspie, I am NT. If you want to redefine the relationship, stop callin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Older women? |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2010, 12:27 pm
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Replies: 57
Views: 14,589
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| I wish my Aspie friend liked older women. There is quite a bit of age difference and I love him and would do anything for him but he does not share my feelings. All he wants is friendship and sometimes I even wonder if he wants that. It's interesting to read how so many Aspies can't find partners, w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Jealousy can be to do with the person you're seeing.. |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2010, 12:22 pm
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Replies: 7
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| I think what you're describing is pretty typical @Hale. I think its more related to self-esteem issues than the actual other person involved, though. When a person rejects you - or treats you with a lack of respect - it can mess with your self-esteem. Let's face it: part of what's so enticing about... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NT needs advice about Aspie shutdown - please help me |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2009, 8:00 pm
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Replies: 86
Views: 14,097
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| Update: It seems that I'm fighting a losing battle. Things were going well and we were emailing more, almost daily plus he was coming back to chat some. He was talking about more personal things and telling me more of what was going on in his life even said "sorry for lack of email" one time. Then t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is this inappropriate |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2009, 11:03 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 3,477
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| Your inner radar is going off, listen to it. She is trying to get your husband alone and yes, it's inappropriate. He needs to cancel this or you need to go with them. She can hire people to help her move. Don't count on the fact that you trust your husband, he might not have any intentions but women... |
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